Women ONLY: I have a somewhat embarrassing question to ask.?

Question

I bought some lubricant today when I was at the store. I bought the store brand. this is the first time I've ever bought one but I am getting into the stage of life where sex is uncomfortable. It's not painful yet, YET! but it is a lOT uncomfortable.

Ok here is the question: or questions I should say.

1.) Do I apply with my fingertip?
2.) How often? Every Day? or right before sex? or ???
3) Am I supposed to wipe it off after sex?
4.) Do I just apply it to the "outside" or put it all the way in as I would if I had a yeast infect.?

Sorry I am so dumb on this stuff. I have on one else to ask. All my female relatives are dead. And I don't have any friends that I feel close enough to.

I don't think I like this getting old stuff. :-(

Answer 1

Hmmm. Usually these products come with at least some kind of instruction.
Yes, it is applied with either your fingers, or perhaps your partners fingers, which might help the lubrication part along all by itself.
How often? As often as is needed. I would only use it if absolutely necessary, so in other words, just before actual intercourse.
Do you wipe it off? Shouldn't be too much left after wards, but if there is use one of those Cottonelle wipes, they are great to keep around.
Just on the outside? Yes, should be no need to put any lubricant up inside your vagina. Perhaps also placing a little on your partners penis. If you are not with a man, then I retract that part of my answer.
It won't hurt you if gets up inside, but try lubricating just the outside rim.
Do you take any hormone replacement medication? If not, and you aren't against them, ask your OB/GYN.
Any more questions feel free to email me, I live with a OB/GYN.

Answer 2

Don't be embarrassed! Okay, here are my answers to the best of my ability ;)

Apply with your finger
You can use it everyday. If you are dry enough that you are uncomfortable all the time, you might want to consult a dr. about something you can use daily/all day long. Use the lube that you bought right before sex.
Yes, you will want to wipe it off afterwards. It can get REALLY gooey and yucky.
You can apply to the outside and the inside, depending on how much you need!

This isn't something that just happens when you get "old". I am a 35 year old woman that uses lube almost every time we have sex. Absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about :)

Hope that helps!

Answer 3

Pain during intercourse often is caused by a physical reason, such as vaginal dryness or infection. This is why treatment must start with determining the underlying cause of a sexual problem. If a physical condition is the cause, treatment of that condition may eliminate the pain. But, pain during intercourse may have more than one cause, including psychological causes, such as anxiety or the memory of sexual assault.1

Pain that occurs during initial penetration by the penis may be caused by involuntary contractions of the vagina (vaginismus). Vaginismus is more common in young, inexperienced women and is sometimes related to a lack of education or preparedness for sexual intercourse.8 Treatment may include a program of progressive muscle relaxation and gradual vaginal dilation, possibly including psychotherapy. But pain during initial penetration also may be caused by vaginal irritation or an anatomical condition; if so, getting rid of the pain will require treating the physical reason.


Nonprescription water-based products are available that provide vaginal lubrication. These products are typically available at pharmacies, usually near the condoms, and include Astroglide, Replens, and K-Y Jelly.

Apply lubricant with your fingers before intercourse. You may wipe it off after sex.

Applying lubricating gels to the outer sexual organs, including the vulva and labia, and in the vagina may be helpful to women and ease pain during intercourse.

Answer 4

yes with your fingertips, just wash your hands throughly before.... right before sex, or everyday if you are constantly dry, it will make you feel comfortable......... wipe it if you want, clean yourself after sex as usual... apply it wherever you need it, just out, or in if you need it.. but remember, clean hands.

I hope this helps

Answer 5

My husband rubs it on me on the outside right before sex and puts some on him too.

Answer 6

use while having sex(at the start you apply),...place it at the entrance and the key will do the rest,...wash afterwards or whenever you wash and it will normally wash away