2007-03-01 03:59:00 · 11 answers · asked by love2005wisdom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't help who you love -- but just because you love someone doesn't mean that's the person you should be with. A person who cheats has issues within that they need to resolve. If they really care about you, and care about the relationship, then they should take steps (on their own accord) to change. But the ball is in your court -- love yourself, and be strong. If things are meant to work out they will.
2007-03-01 04:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You choose to love the person, but not what they've done.
It's a difficult road to take, and it takes a lot of patience and care. You have to convince that person to stay faithful, meanwhile setting the example to them of what real trust and love is. Then, you have to help them as they grow to fill that role. It will take a long time for your wounds to heal from the pain of the cheating, and it will take a long time for them to grow enough to realize just how wrong it is.
It's a noble thing to do, but a difficult one. I wish anyone attempting it the best of luck.
2007-03-01 12:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you cannot pick and choose who you love. It just happens. And when the ones you love hurt you over and over again, it hurts more than anything. But, the fact that you stil love them, even when they've hurt you, isn't something you can change. You can decide not to be with them anymore, and eventually your wounds will heal. So don't be hard on yourself about still loving them. You can't help it. But you can make a decision that will eventually lead you to a happier life.
2007-03-01 12:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by kari w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I think I might of wrote this questions? You can if you can get the TRUST back! It is hard! I firmly believe now that I deserve better and that because he can't control his desires I don't need to suffer!
Think about all the energy that you have spent feeling said for yourself or being the "victim", DON'T do it anymore... Focus on you... he will regret it one day when he sees what he lost, but you really can't, unless there is a divine intervention love him/her... Make sure you forgive him/her! Because unforgivness is ONLY toxic to YOU!
Move one.... we can do it together:)
2007-03-01 12:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by SilentMoon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating on you then he does not have respect for you.If he don't respect you, he does not love you. Oh, I think he may love you but not the way you want him to. There are different kinds of love ..... He may just be too young to be with one woman. Watch the show TV show Cheaters and get some in-site as to how cheaters think. Good luck and start dating again......
2007-03-01 12:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pearlinpc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't!!!! Trust is something that you earn, not just get and take. Relationships are built on trust, if that isn't there then how can it work????? Cheating is the ultimate betrayal and several times of cheating is a major sign that you have to leave.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-01 12:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you love them? The question is why would you want to love them? Dont waste your time there a re way to many fish in the sea. Find someone who really loves you.
2007-03-01 12:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate Kisses 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are only in love with the concept of love.
Real love doesn't hurt.
2007-03-01 12:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this cheated is there any sex involve? if there is my advice to you is to leave. But if is juz chatting,sms or return call, try to luv him more and try to do thing that he have not receive frm you. try not to think abt the cheat, i knw its diff but try your best.
2007-03-01 12:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by Al J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love yourself, you can't.
Some people are simply unacceptable, and there is nothing wrong with banning these types of people from your life.
2007-03-01 12:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋