i dont know how to forget her.
i do love my bf too
but i know i can never be with her, cos the society that im in is still unable to accept gays, and i dont think she feels the same as how i feel about her, though certain actions make me wonder, i hope its not bcos im blinded though.
thats y i chose to try to concentrate on my bf and not her but i cant, she just keeps returning
i even wrote fictional fantasy stories about her and me together, i tink it made everything worst..
help how do i stop this madness?!?
2007-03-01 03:41:13 · 7 answers · asked by acnemycin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i havent dated another gal b4, but id say im bi, and i dont wana come out.
i dont wana lose my bf too but i know even if i came out to her, its quite unlikely she wld like me (dats wat happen to the past 2 gals i came out to [b4 i had the bf btw])
so im hoping someone can help me find a way to forget about her
2007-03-01 03:52:34 · update #1
First of all take her out of the equation for a moment, if you are gay, you should not be with your boyfriend, its not fair on you and its not fair on him, either you're going to live your whole life unhappy as its not what you want, or you will end up finishing with him down the line anyway and it will probably be harder then as you would have been with him longer. Now back to the girl that you like, if you want something to happen you're going to have to take a chance and find out, you didn't say if she's gay or not or even if you know this person. Maybe spending some time with her as a friend will help answer some questions. Maybe you could even ask her to a gay club on a girls night out and tell her you've heard its a fun night out, lol. I have a suspicion though that maybe part of it is not just that you are in love with her, but once you realised that you liked her, she has become a way to let yourself feel something for someone of the same sex (which was previously suppressed), and you love that feeling as it feels more natural to you than thinking about a guy in that way. I hope that makes sense, i didnt really know how to put that - i know what i mean, lol.
Its better for you to be single and able to be yourself than with a guy that's never going to make you fully happy, even if he's a really nice guy.
Anyway good luck, hope everything works out for the best for you.
2007-03-01 03:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by hillpip_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, that's one of the troubles of today's intollerant world. You feel something for someone and yet can't say anything. That is so unfair.
Do you know how the girl you are in love with feels about girl/girl relationships?
There is no easy way to get over your feelings. Only time will dictate your best course of action, whether it be moving out and living your life the way you want to, or staying where you are and teaching the people to let you live in peace.
I do hope that some day people will understand that a person's sexual prefference is not what makes them good or bad.
2007-03-01 12:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is an amazing thing and if in your heart you know you love this woman then you must do right by her and your bf the truth often hurts but only for a moment and then people move on he will get over it you should express your love for this girl and see where it leads you one thing u should remeber is if you never took the time to try you may miss out on the best thing that could have ever come into your life i see u as a beautiful kind hearted lesbian and u should just let yourself be who u are and not be ashamed society is becoming more excepting of the gay culture i am an out and proud lesbian and people dont have a problem in fact they love me more for being real we should all be real and for you coming into your true self will end the turmoil and you will be able to show an amazing love to a girl that sounds like she may be worth all you can do is step off the presapiece and take the leap and you never know she might be standing there just waiting to catch you with loviing arms all my love and best wishes you have the courage just go for it and and let love be free
2007-03-01 11:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by lady heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start by being true to yourself because society is always going to have their opinions and say!If you are with a man and want to be with another woman you need to make a decision based on what you really want-all the societies that kept gays and bisexual people in the dark is what really caused the problems because they couldn't be them true selves and lived in private leading lives to cover their other lives and eventually causing grief to most of those involved.I am not gay but do not discriminate and truly feel that your sexual preference should be that exactly YOURS!! You can't force her to want you but you can be honest and see how she feels about you or you can be honest with your man and be bisexual.Just remember that people are always going to be around to discriminate and bring you/other down but if it's what you want and believe-go for it and worry about the other crap after.if you love your man too but can't be true to him or yourself i would be by myself until i decided what's right for me-without dragging others along who don't really know how u feel-cuz I'm sure your b/f would want to be with someone who wants him and him only.Stop writing fantasy stories and be real to what your going after.Don't wait for ever something you can't have and don't expect your b/f to do this for you.
2007-03-01 12:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So does this mean you are bi or just a lesbian that doesn't wanna come out?
If so you should let your bf go cuz that's not fair to him....it's selfish...
2007-03-01 11:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're infatuated with someone but you're with someone else. Work through it unless you want to be unfaithful.
2007-03-01 12:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, what a "problem"! do what comes natural for u, and PRAY you made the right decision...
good luck!!
2007-03-01 12:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by solicitor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋