Okay, it has been a while since I have been in a long term relationship, and only recently I started talking to people on personal sites, and met up with a few nice guys. Now, I can be an intense person, and I know that it can be intimidating for some people out there in the community. So I am now seeking out perhaps some helpful advice on what the "rules" of dating and or building a relationship out of this. Any response would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-01 03:18:12 · 5 answers · asked by E T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think the "rules" are the same anywhere: there are no rules. You pretty much have to either gauge and guess, or else be mature and direct about asking what the expectations are and whether or not your expectations match his. Perhaps I'm not understanding your question though.
2007-03-01 18:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
etiquette in the "gay community" is no different than in any other social setting! what on earth makes you think otherwise??
if a guy comes on to me, whether he suspects i'm a t-girl or not, and he goes str8 to the bedroom, i'm turned very off! WOW! just like real boys and girls!! lol!
2007-03-01 03:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say "Bring your own lube" would be a good start.
But joking aside--- this isn't a 'gay' question. It's about how you relate to people. Do you listen? Do you check in? Do you give your life story in 7 minutes?
2007-03-01 04:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you spoke back your man or woman question. gay persons are people like the different guy or woman, and could be dealt with as such. basically be well mannered and respectful, and get excitement from who they are. i assume you may desire to keep away from specifics like making gay jokes or something, yet you may desire to no longer do this in spite of in case you have been striking out with straight away people. some gay adult men are rather masculine, mutually as others are rather female. I additionally could stop treating women folk and adult men people in any different case. That way, you does no longer ask your self no remember if or to no longer manage somebody "like a woman" and somebody else "like a guy." As a woman, i are not getting excitement from being dealt with in any different case than a guy - it makes me experience inferior. So basically keep away from that in the time of maximum situations. basically be calm and comfortable, make jokes, pay attention to them, we are anybody - guy, lady, gay, straight away. attempt to stress your self to blur the gender lines and you will commence treating people as they decide for to be dealt with, as damaging to the variety you think of they could desire to be dealt with based on your thought of their gender id. And in case you get hit on...basically be flattered! If he starts asserting rather irrelevant and sexual issues to you, basically say you experience uncomfortable and desire for him to stop, basically such as you may with absolutely everyone drawing near to you which you're no longer involved in, woman and male. perhaps point out ex-girlfriends or a present day lady-pal, so he's familiar with what your sexual id is. you would be shocked at how comparable the regulations are for the two gay and straight away people. do exactly no longer think of roughly it too plenty. in any different case, you will sound too planned or awkward.
2016-09-30 01:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...just ask "top or bottom"... :)
2007-03-01 03:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋