Am I too young to get married? I am 23yr. old and my fiance and I have been together since high school?

Answer 1

I'm going to tell you exactly what I told Ashley in her post. This is almost exactly the same question, except you're older and have been together longer. I feel kinda guilty repeating myself, but it's a good answer and it's almost the same question. I hope you'll forgive me.

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think it's fine. I was married at 17 (my husband was 19). We're still together (a little over a year and a half) and we're doing great. It's not a question of age, it's a question of maturity and the willingness to accept the commitment. If you are both willing to accept the responsibilities of marriage, then it's fine. You need to talk about what you expect from each other as husband and wife, and discuss the way your lives are going to change (if any).

People say it's too young and that you haven't done what you wanted with life yet. That's ridiculous. Modern society preaches that marriage isn't neccessary at all, and that it just "gets in the way." This is a lie.

Since my marriage, I have had a son, started college, written a novel, and continued my fulfilling career as journalist (which I had started during our engagement).

Marriage does not keep you from doing the things you want to do. It offers you a constant companion to enjoy the journeys of life with, and the stability of knowing that you have someone who will comfort you if you fail, or cheer you on if you succeed. Someone who will be there, no matter what.

Don't give up on something wonderful because you are worried about the future. Don't pass up the opportunity to marry someone you love because you think in 10 years you'll get "bored" and have an affair. It doesn't work that way. Marriage is work--you have to work to keep the flame burning, and work to stay interested each other. But it's the most enjoyable, fulfilling and rewarding work you'll ever have to do. People who get "bored," "cheat," or "stop loving one another" are just too lazy, and give up easily. My mom was divorced 3 times, and on my wedding day told me it was only because she lost sight of what she was fighting for. She told me to never give up, because as long as I keep trying, those things won't happen to me.

You've got to be strong, but you sound like a strong woman. If you're still in love and still wanting marriage, do it!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I don't think it's too young to get married. But you are still young. If you don't have any children you should wait a few years before you plan on having them. The only reason why I say this is because I believe married couples should get to know each other as a "married couple" first before children come in to the picture. If you guys know each other since you were in high school and you know each others family well, that does help. But because you are asking the question maybe you should wait another year or so until your more comfortable with the idea. Think about it. And of course any fears and/or questions should be discussed together. Because when you do get married discussing issues together is definitely a must. Hope this helps. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Yes, I think 23 is too young. I wish I had put love off until my 30s or even my 40s and concentrated on education and work. Of course I never wanted children of my own so perhaps that's different. If you do want children, how about waiting till you're about 26 and start your family around 30? I think children might be better off with slightly older parents - my parents were only 19 and 20 when I was born and it was very hard for them, because truthfully the last thing they wanted was to get married and be parents. By 23, my mother had three children and was extremely unhappy with the way her life had turned out.

There really is no rush - take your time, concentrate on other things and wait till the time is right.

Answer 4

By you even thinking that you may be too young is an answer in itself. Since you didn't give details it is imposable to give a direct answer....... Marriage is a very serious step for anyone. a step, not to take lightly. Questions you have to ask yourself 1- Do we enjoy everything together ?(same interests) 2- Am I willing to give up my social life and settle down? (all to often your single friends fade away). 3- Will I be able to work on our marriage daily? (more often than not this does not happen....love is like a fire and if you don't stroke that fire daily it will die out). 4- Do you see yourself with the same lover 40 years from now and speaking of lovers are you compatible in bed???? If not marriage will not improve that area of your life. 5- Will we grow closer as we grow older? I could go on and on with questions to ask yourself..... Think long and hard......answer these questions and you will know what is right for you.

Answer 5

You are not too young. In fact, if you have been with your fiance since high school and you are 23 that would mean that you have been with them for aproximately 5-6 years minimum. Most marriages that fail, do so within ther first 4. So what are you waiting for? Your not getting any younger.

Answer 6

fairly relies upon on your perspective, would not it? if you're 18, then 35 is previous or a minimum of mature. if you're 35, then 35 is suitable and by no potential even center elderly. if you're 40 5, then 35 is youthful. if you're seventy 5, then 35 is a infant fortunate adequate to have a drivers license As for me, age is only a form, 35 is an outstanding age as you've a sturdy quantity of existence thoughts lower than your belt at the same time as being youthful adequate to nevertheless take on the international if want be.

Answer 7

I just got married at 23 last September (just turned 24 in January) and My husband is 26 (about to turn 27). We were together for 6 years before we got married.

I definately say it is a perfect time in your lives to get married because you're still young enough to spend time alone toghether just the two of you before having children (if you want to have children)

Good luck & Contratulations to you and your fiance!! May you share a lifetime of happiness and love!

Answer 8

I'm 21 and I would marry the right person. I don't think its all about physical age. Its more about mentality and if you know the person well enough, are you willing to spend the rest of your life with them(at 23 you should have a LONG time left) But follow your heart and don't rush into to anything. Give it a lot of thought.. the good and the bad.

Answer 9

I also got married at a early age which was 21 and we also was together since high school. Let me say this until you know yourself in and out you don't know what will work for you. Take your time and make sure she is worth your time and is ready to give you what you want. You first have to know what you both want from each other cause saying I do is not a game. Time is to valuable to waste so understand that if not else. Other then that Congrads!

Answer 10

The reason people say you are too young is not because of your age. You have yet to experience life. You have been with this guy since H.S. How many other people have you dated? How do you know he is the one when you have no other references. The reason for this is when you are in your 30's you will look back at all you have missed out on. If he is the guy for you, your true love death til you part then what is the rush.