Okay .. My 2 best friends have turned against me and ii don't know whyy!! It's so annoying!..Well them to have become propa' bum chumss!..If you know what ii mean! They just hang around together and have great laughs but they DON'T speak to me!:S!?!..Not even 1 flippin' word..like 'Are you alright!?' .. But when 1 of ma best friends is in ma art class we start talking really nicely but when the other 1 comes along she just takes her away from me.. And then when i'm instant messenging (the one i talk 2 in art class!) she says 'Why wern't you hanging around with us at lunch:S..its lyk wotttttttttt d hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lolzzzzzz how am ii spposed to if u dnt evn say 1 wordd 2 mee!!..plus i aint done nowt wrongggg!
II DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DOOOO! SOMEONE HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!
thankxxxxxxxx alot guyz xxxx
2007-03-01 02:58:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This same thing happened to me a few years ago, and I thought that I must have been doing something wrong, but the fact is that you aren't. They know that they have got you where they want you. All I did was find a new friend, I sat next to somebody different in my lesson, and enede up finding a really nice best friend. In the end, we all made friends. Give it a try, and good luck...
2007-03-01 04:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2's a party and 3's a crowd... Some people don't know how to be friends w/ more than one person. It sounds like the friend in art class wants to be friend w/ the both of you, but the other friend doesn't want to share. Try being friend w/ both of them. If that doesn't work. Find new friends... A fair weather friend is not really a friend at all.
2007-03-01 11:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by KATKEL1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me. To be honest I just let it happen but here is what you should do,
1) decide whether you want both friends. Do you? If the other is just manipulative then you don't want her but it can't hurt to have allies.
2) Once you've decide whether you want, both friends or just once. Now this could take a long time to establish and is a long project so decide whether this friend is worth it.
3) Now all the deciding is over first you need to beat her at her manipulating games. If you've know one longer then the other and you want to alienate the other, keep bringing up times that you've had toghether, things you've shared, stuff only both of you like or know. In front of the other get her back on side. That is one option. Make her realise how much fun you are.
4) The last thing you want to do is make bitchy remarks. It won't work they will gang up on you and push you out so no 'why don't you just marry each other'. Instead give compliments like 'nice scarf, I wanted something like that. Why don't help me chose something?'
5) Try and get each of them on their own so you are able to boost their confidence. So compliments, but not sucking up. Just make them feel good about themseleves without looking like a weasel. They will assosiate the good feeling they get with you so will want you around. But don't say bad things about the other person. Your friend will probably say something like 'That ... can be so bossy.' and you say 'yeah I know she can be annoying.' then you're other friend will come to you and say 'I heared you called me bossy and annoying'
6) Be the thing extra. Add something different to your relationship. So if your first friend is the bossy one, you're other is the creative one be the funny one. Add something that that they would miss if you left.
7) Threesomes are hard to maintain because alot of things are for two people only like buses, and group work. So try to share but if that doesn't happen. Quickly take the seat next to your friend. But also be willing to back down. However your friends may get used to you constantly backing down and just accept it as a fact of life. Then you'll be pushed out.
8) If stuff gets bad make sure you make a friend on the side even if they are only minor. If you end up breaking up having someone else. Make some connections. So you won't go to extremes to get them to like you. It will just annoy them.
9) It also depends on how old you all are. I was the oldest so more rational at the time where the others who were younger weren't actually ready to listen to how hurt I might be feeling. So you can talk to them but how close are you all.
10) Last thing is to remeber, you are hurt right now. Even though it sounds all jokey I know you're feeling it. You don't deserve to be treated like this. You are a person with feelings and for your friends to bugger off it isn't on. With this wave of emotions you might not be a good person to be around. Remeber deserve a friend who will be there for you and who notices you're feeling left out. Who understands you. This girl might not even be your special friend it could be someone else, take the time to find out.
2007-03-01 11:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey MA. Well welcome to life...that's how it goes sometime. You can't do anything to make people your friend. If you buy peoples friendship, then it really is not a friendship at all. Don't worry about them and worry about yourself. I'm sure there not the only 2 girls left on this earth. You'll find better friends as time goes on. When I got to high school, most of my friends changed and went there own way. Its just life...hang in there. They say you find your long life friend in college....
Good Luck
2007-03-01 11:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it to heart! It's an age old problem. It's called childish behaviour. Tell your friends how you feel about the way that they are treating you and if they don't respond favourably just get on with your life. Always be pleasant to them and when they grow up they will realise how stupid they have been.
2007-03-01 11:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by ROLAND M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they asked you why weren't you hanging around at lunch then they must still want to be friends with you, are you coming across annoyed with them? maybe just try a little harder to be a part of there little group. Ask them to if they want to go out at the weekend with you or something, they may thing your not making the effort?
2007-03-01 11:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Keira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off know this, the only bestfriend you have is up above and he gives you much love. You will save yourself time and stress if you believe and understand that. Other then that you will continue to try and make people happy or continue to try and figure out why why. Love yourself to know that you have to watch out for yourself and everyone else is consider to be associates.
2007-03-01 11:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by ressie re 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friends whats up? I sometimes mess wit my friends like that but not for more than a day. srry that yo r having a hard time
2007-03-01 11:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this used to happen a lot to me when i was at school as there used to be the 3 of us it always happens when there's 3 people that are freinds
just try and stay nice to both of them and when your next with one on there own say to them something like "lets not leave the other one out next time" or something like "i hate it when we someones left out"
or you could try mixing with different people as well as them so next time they leave you out of things you have someone else to talk to as well.
2007-03-01 11:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by doughnut1002001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends like that arent really friends at all... sorry honey but you need to find some other friends that you can trust and treat you the way you'd like to be treated...
2007-03-01 11:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋