dose anyone have manners anymore!?

Question

a man opened the door for me the other day and when i said thank you he said the last time he held a door open for a lady he got told he was sexist why

Answer 1

I would have thought that this would be a question more likely asked by a man. You must be aware of feminists who chastise men for holding doors open for them. They seem to think, quite wrongly, that they are being patronised. I know a number of men who have recounted such experiences to me. I will continue to hold doors open for people and any passing dog, including feminists.

I once attended a course with a feminist zealot. As we were about to leave the lift she insisted that all the men got out of the lift before her. Later, she interrupted a lecture, because she thought, quite wrongly, that the man had made a sexist remark. She may have thought of herself as some sort of feminist foot soldier. I thought of her as 'p-g ignorant.

Feminists, have done more to kill off good manners and gentlemanly behaviour, than any other group I can think of. They have done normal women a great disservice, and indeed, society in general.

I still find it difficult to believe that you weren't aware of this behaviour amongst some of the sisterhood. Men, would simply like to know where they stand on this, and similar issues.

So, can I ask you to answer your own question, and then let us men know the answer.

Read the first answer given by 'leaptab'. This is a perfect example of what I mean. It is called manners 'leaptab', and men open doors for other men, not just women. They are NOT just being nice. Does this explain, why, when you let a women out of a side road, they hardly ever acknowledge it?

BY THE WAY, I EXPECT WOMEN TO HOLD DOORS OPEN FOR ME AS WELL. It has nothing to do with equality, it is called MANNERS for goodness sake.

Answer 2

I'm old-school when it comes to manners.. I open the doors, hold the coat when they need to put it on, even adjust her hair so it's out of the way.. I drop her off at the door so she won't be cold.. I carry in the groceries, do the outside work, stand when she leaves the table and again when she comes back, etc.

As far as people that don't like it when I open the door for them. That's too bad. I chose to, not because I thought they weren't capable... but because I was doing the right thing. And if they're so insecure in their "womanhood" that they can't get over that... well, I won't argue with them. I'll just feel sorry for them.

As far as guys that don't have manners? They say things from time to time in a social setting. Usually they get upset because I make them look bad in a formal setting even. But that's too bad. If they don't take the time to respect their woman, then I'll just look all the better to mine!

Answer 3

Darn good question!! It does seem that in this day and age, there are fewer manners than there used to be. And that, is a shame. Poor manners are bad enough, but there seems to be an outbreak of just plain rudeness, to boot. 'Tis a shame to see the world headed downhill in such a fashion. Unfortunately I cannot answer your question, merely agree that there is a problem. Perhaps it is in the de-sensitization by the media, too much violence, too little respect for life and decency, I really don't know. But, I appreciate the fact that you thanked someone for opening yoru door. Perhaps it will be contagious and spread.

Answer 4

Not many do. I am always shocked when someone holds a door open for me because it happens so little. We need more men to treat us like the ladies we are.

The sexist remark he probably got was from a woman that considered herself his equal and was insulted by him holding the door open for her. She is just the kind of person the ruined it for all of us real ladies!

Answer 5

because of the fact there human beings are lazy, and there are various immigrants international coming to u.s. changing how society is. not asserting I hate immigrants, yet they stay a different existence type. as an occasion Asians have superb manners so that they arrive here with appreciate to all human beings, yet Africans, Spanish, (low type) and lots extra incorporate undesirable manners. I aint a racist ok, im not White myself.

Answer 6

Apparently he held the door open for an idiot! Good manners should be appreciated all around-how can being considerate be considered sexist??? Really dumb. People need to develop critical thinking skills-sheeesh!

Answer 7

Life would be so much more pleasant if people were more courteous to one another, everone should try it, give up your seat for the prenant lady on the tube or the old lady on the bus, Say please and thank you. a little bit of respect can enhance your day.

Answer 8

In this politically correct and equal rights environment we live in people have forgotten some of what I would call "common courtesies".

Those include holding a door for someone (male or female), giving up a seat on a train or bus (when appropriate), or just saying please and thank you.

Answer 9

That's silly, I love when men open the door for me, I don't think it's sexiest. I hold the door for men sometimes, I just don't like it when men treat me like I'm defenseless or something.

Answer 10

I don't know, you'd have to ask the person who told him that. Personally, I don't really care for men holding the door open for me. But I realize they are being nice so I just smile and say, "Thank you".