2007-03-01 01:55:31 · 13 answers · asked by love2005wisdom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a tough one, I know because I am going through it right now. I am a person who really likes closeness in a relationship so it is especially tough for me. We have been together for almost 7 years and have two children together (so it's not just a casual fling!) He gives a lot of lame excuses, and I have eliminated as many of them as possible. Still, for more than a year, he has slept on the couch. Eventually, I join him on the living room floor or he comes and gets me out of bed. On those nights, we have great sex and cuddle like normal couples do. Unfortunately, I often wake up and he is GONE completely out of the house. He claims to be working and says that he stays with me until the kids and I are asleep before he leaves. If you have ever experienced this, it is a very painful and USED feeling. I sacrificed sleeping in comfort to be with him and he left?!? I have expressed how I feel many times, but he keeps making excuses. (The bed is uncomfortable, the carpet stinks-my daughter had an accident, there was no tv at one point, all kinds of dumb stuff.) The whole thing really stinks and I feel for you because I know EXACTLY what that feels like. If you two really love each other and the relationship is good otherwise, just hang in there and try to work with him to compromise on something that both of you can live with. I try not to let my mind wonder about other women, but since he has cheated on you before, look out for any other signs or strange behavior. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-01 02:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tommithesupermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think he loves you as he should if he wont sleep in the same bed with you. This is a very good sign he may be cheating again. Ask him why he does not want to sleep in the same bed as you and see what he says. If he starts fumbling for words or looking funny then more than likely he is cheating! You may also want to take him on the Maury show and ask him these questions and have him take a lie detector test. This may just clear things up real quick.
2007-03-01 02:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you already know the answer to this question. you should think he on some bullshit. there is no way you can make me, you or anyone else think he is totally commited to you. if he was sleeping there at first he should still be doing so. if you know you have not let yourself go or cheated on him or anything like that i would say dump him immediatley. if yall are having roblems from the things that both of yall have done then talk to him and try to work it out. but end the end there is no reason why yo man shouldnt be in yo bed trying to get some before he go to sleep and before he leave in the morning sometimes
2007-03-01 08:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard to deal with but a man that does not want to sleep with his girl is up to no good. He is either married, cheating or has really loud bodily noises he doesn't want you to know about. Seriously it doesn't sound like there is any good excuse for this actions speak louder than words. Be smart find you a man that will really "Love you" like you were meant to be loved. He isn't doing it someone else can.
***You don't sound happy and you have given him a second chance time to move on*****
2007-03-01 02:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him...He sounds like a lier and cheater.
I dont know a man that want sleep with the woman he is living with.
He probably is waiting on a better offer before he leaves you.
Sounds like a player
I know it hurts but it for the best
2007-03-01 02:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Grogan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what the problem is? How long have you been together? Most men have a problem communicating and i can testify to that. If something bothers us or hurt our feelings we simply shut down. The fact of the matter is men are more sensitive than women we just try and hide them. Talk to him maybe he want to confess something but brace yourself might not be anything but brace yourself anyway.
2007-03-01 02:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by McDaniel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on... he doesn't understand the definition of "love" if he has cheated on you.
Cheaters only love themselves. That's the fact... no matter how swee the talks or how much he makes you tingle when he whispers in your ear, you got to move on, girl... this dude will ruin your life.
2007-03-01 01:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a relationship of love. You know that or you wouldn't be on here asking questions, just end it, have a good cry and then move on.
2007-03-01 02:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume he was cheating again and promised the other woman he'd be faithful to her.
2007-03-01 02:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk tohim nd find out because that sounds fishy
2007-03-01 02:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋