My wife gained about 20 kilograms, after joining a gym she met some muscular types that introduced her to steriods, she said she was going to use them for a few months to get 'back in shape'
Its now been 9 months and things are getting out of control. She is very aggressive in bed, usually when she comes home from the gym, to tell the truth she hurts me
She has uncontrollable rage, over the smallest things. Plates get smashed when dishes arent done, the dog copped a hiding for crapping in the shower, she assaulted the neighbour for listening to music in his car too loudly.
I took her out on the weekend, and she picked a fight with a guy on the train, its getting embarrasing.
I cannot talk to her about it without being abused or attacked. I still love her, well the woman she was when we were married. Its always, oh i just want to get bigger abs, or bigger biceps, she keeps prolonging it and doesnt seem to want to stop
How do I get it through to her? Should I leave?
2007-03-01 01:46:37 · 13 answers · asked by jonathonspanks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Betcha she's not very tall.
Leave her mate-wee yampy bint ****** are incurable for anger and hissy fits-It's genetic.
2007-03-01 01:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sit down and talk with her and ask her why she is acting like this? She may need anger management classes or counseling and I also suggest marriage counseling. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in tbis matter as well. She seems like she is obsessed with this and over doing it! Someday she may end up in jail assaulting and hurting someone like that. She will have to learn how to control her rage. Since she is abusing you i would say yes you should leave her asap and do not think twice about it! You may also need to get an order of protection against her as well as she may try to come after you. She has no right to be abusing you .
2007-03-01 10:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think that you should separate from her for a little while. And when you leave you should only stay in touch with her to begin with by telephone. This way the two of you can talk and you can explain to her exactly how you are feeling and why that you had to leave. Maybe if the two of you talked for a while about this problem that she is having she will come to terms and realize that you love her for her and by her trying to lose weight that has only caused the two of you worse problems and could have caused her to become addicted to steroids.
I wish both of you the best of luck.
God Bless!
2007-03-01 10:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question for a physician. She is abusing a substance and it is affecting her body and her mind. This is not about her being mean--it's about her being under the influence. If you cannot get her to go to her doctor, take the question yourself to your doctor. She needs to quit the drugs. This is easier said than done. Your doctor can tell you if there are rehab programs for steroid use, or other useful strategies. Leaving her seems an extreme solution if there is a way to help her.
2007-03-01 14:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, nobody should be in an abusive relationship -- neither a woman OR a man. and yeah i think you should call it quits and go and find a new wife who treats you with the same kind of respect you would treat her with. LEAVE HER! she sounds psycho. uncontrollable people are never fun to be around. things will only get worse and more out of hand. nip in the bud now.
2007-03-01 10:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by green sky means run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u love her but she is traveling down a different road than u want to be on, and until she stops this u can't come home. get out of there and protect yourself from her. u may ask her first to get some help for this addiction.
2007-03-01 10:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You're a pencil neck fag. She should have began
b-i-t-c-h slapping you months ago! Just have the house clean and dinner on the table when she gets home from the gym.
2007-03-01 11:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to her is not going to make you get through to her. Leave. She's using an illegal drug and you know what the results of that are.
2007-03-01 09:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she might kick ur *** if u leave her..lol... oh yeah its the steroids.... the testosterone in them makes you mean.... my husband at one time wanted to try them and he said u get steroid rages.. and i said oh heck no... they are not very good for ur health and they are illegal too... this is one time an ultimatum has to be given.... tell her shes not the same person and u miss the person she use to be.. and ask her nicely if she will stop.. then if not.... tell her u leave and do it... if she misses u.. she will beg for u back if not.... she doesnt care anymore... good luck....
2007-03-01 09:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by gina B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her. If that doesnt work go to marriage consueling anf if she doesnt want to go then threanted for divorce. If she really loves you she will go.
Good Luck
2007-03-01 10:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her an ultimatum. either she quits the steroids or you're done. she really needs help. steroids can kill her. in the meantime - don't have sex with her. if it hurts that much it can't be that good.
2007-03-01 10:26:09 · answer #11 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋