Whats the best way to move on?

Question

I've tried putting this question under singles and dating, but it wasn't the best advice...
I need help, because, most guys don't like me because I am too annoying, and sometimes I become too obsessed. I am obsessed with my ex right now, and I dont know how to just turn around and leave. I've tried leaving him alone, but he is making this an exciting chase for me. And he really doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. What should I do?

Answer 1

try to divert your attention to something else and if it doesnt work, see a psychiatrist, maybe it was a behavioral disorder

Answer 2

Wow... I think Jessica's answer is great (& vikki's story).

The only thing I'd like to add is, in the future, you also have to work on being less "annoying" and "obsessive". Since you didn't really describe the ways in which you act annoyingly or obsessively, I can only say in general...

...to be Quieter. Many people find constant talking & action overwhelming. (Which is why quiet people are never described as annoying.) "Annoying" people tend to talk a lot (by saying whatever pops into their minds), and to do a lot, too (by doing whatever they feel like whenever) - so perhaps you could try doing the exact opposite - talking less & doing less.

The only time you would talk is, if someone asked you a question. Try to be quiet most of the rest of the time, and to not offer up any opinions or feelings UNLESS it's quiet, or there's an awkward silence. The same goes for acting obsessively: try to only act, when others act towards you. (That means no calling guys unless absolutely necessary.) Let others direct the course of the conversation, the gathering, or the date. You can try practicing this until you can be quiet by choice, after which you can go back to your more "normal" self if you want.

Answer 3

Don't worry your not the only person to do this so it is normal at times to get obsessed, the chase always is exciting but when you get what you wanted after a week or two you would be bored the thing to do is , just go out and meet new people listen and talk and flirt you little heart away , and one day you will get that person were the chase ain't there but you both just love being together ! until that point just go out and have fun

Answer 4

oh, gosh, do i know that feeling! i was obsessed over my ex for years!! but the truth is, you're probably just holding on to some fantasy you have. Maybe you think he's the ONLY one (he;s not) or that he's the best (he's not). But really, what got me over him was a complete move! I don't know how flexible you are, but I moved countries, and it really took my mind off of my everyday life! and I loved it! also, i did A LOT of dating. Some of it was a waste of time, but some of it actually helped me grow. THe bigger problem for us is how do you date and not repeat the pattern...
step 1. Get a hold of yourself!!! fill your life with other interests other than your date!
step 2. become more egocentric - you come first!
step 3. know this: you're not annoying, you're just bored. have higher expecations of yourself
oh, and to stop the chase, do something despicable to your ex, since he'll probably stop the chase before you do. For example, I yelled at him at teh top of my lungs in public and then smeared cake all over his face. This made him stop calling me real quick. And when I had a weak moment, and tried to call him, he would not return my phonecalls! sound crazy??
well, i'm over him
all i needed was time away from him

Answer 5

I realy do know what you are talking about. I get to attatched and fall "in love" too easy.. i am now with a guy that i really do love, its my longest relationship so far. I had an obsession with a guy that claimed he loved me we went out on and off for years and people posted things over the internet and he wouldnt talk to me... 2 years later i stil miss him think about him.. but the best f all im in love with a guy that i think the world of i would never leave him. But i do have a tatoo with the enitial of the guy from 2 years b4. my boyfriend hasnt really noticed what my tatoo is about..

The reason i believe i get attatched easy is because ive never felt loved by my parents i was treated badly and had to do EVERYTHING at home. So i would try to find love and comfort in a guy, which theybroke my heart or used me. I dont know if this has helped, hope it has. Just try and look in your life for something to focus on, or try to figure out the reason you feel like this about guys
xXx

Answer 6

This is akin to a dog chasing his own tail.

Try to get some professional help. Your ex might wind up getting spooked by you and then you'll have to deal with the long arm of the law.

Try putting yourself in his shoes...how would you feel if you didn't want anything to do with someone and yet, they continued to hound you....scary, isn't it?!

Answer 7

Leave him alone before he accuses you of stalking or really hates you forever.........

Obsession huh ? Clingy? problems with relationships?
Drama? Sounds like you have a Attachment Disorder....
Maybe Borderline Personality Disorder.......

Look it up , you be the judge.......As a male, i'll tell you that you need to back off now.....Don't push yourself on him.....It's foolish and can be harmful to you in the longrun.

Answer 8

best way to move on,especially if ya a pensioner,is either buy or steal a bicycle,buy or drive off in yr car or if ya a pensioner,get ya can of dog food ,throw it at yr partner,grab ya walking stick and hobble of to the salvos for refuge.