Crazy question???How to tell someone their technique is not right???
How do you tell your other half that the way they are giving you ora l is not doing anything for you??Now keep in mind they "love" to pleasure you..but it is just and hasnt been working for me.Its his technique well how he does it..I mean i have and do very MUCH enjoy ora l.But he is very upset and takes it personal if i dont "get off" by him doing that,I've tried to talk to him and explain to slow down or relax or just do what comes naturally,so i am all with working with him.He says i'm holding back and telling him to stop hurts his feelings then he will actually not even want to follow up with sex which is what i want. Its a new relationship so i tell him we just have to get used to eachother..Any suggestions???
2007-03-01 01:25:03 · 6 answers · asked by ccrazeegyrl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to give my husbands tips the whole time. I stared my asking him if there was anything he wanted me to improve on. Then after I answered he asked me the same question. I told him that I love our love making but some times I do not enjoy oral as much as I would like. Because my husband wants me to be happy in bed he was more them happy to learn what I like and not like. Things are much better now. It is still not 100% but I will take what I can get.
2007-03-01 01:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy this book:
The Ultimate Kiss.
Have him study like it's finals.
BTW: In Maxim Magazine they did a study of 100 men who claim to be experts at oral and only 4 of them actually knew where the Clitoris was.
2007-03-01 09:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask him if you are doing the work on top does he move he move on bottom? i bet he does because he is helping you to help him self. just saying each body is different and he needs to know what your body needs to climax with oral. practice doesnt hurt. i practice for a while and now i need a snokal everytime now so i wont drown.lol just explain to him and be happy
2007-03-01 09:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by jedi1medic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't explain to us what you want, so I'm not surprised.
Why are you telling him to do 'what comes naturally'. Clearly, that's not what you want.
You need to tell him very explicitly what feels good. Just saying 'you're not doing it right, just relax though' puts him down without giving him anything constructive. He wants to pleasure you. He doesn't want to do 'what's natural' for him, he wants to do what feels good to you, but that's difficult unless you _tell_ him what you want.
2007-03-01 11:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a guy with experience and a strong tongue. I can push my tongue into a gummy lifesaver!!! LOL
2007-03-01 09:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, sweetie.....I see that this relationships is doomed......ain't gonna happen!
2007-03-01 09:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋