ok, I have 4 kids and he has 2. We have his 2 every other weekend. I am in college fulltime and have my kids pretty much myself(ex not too involved). I will be starting back to work fulltime next week. I am also 6 weeks pregnant and really run down. my oldest is 5. I have been moody and touchy. He seems like just cuz I love him I can turn thses feeelings off. How can I get through to him that this is how some pregnancies go? Or what advice can u give me so our relationship doesnt get ruined over this?
2007-03-01 01:00:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks Angel but it is ok. People cant even begin to understand and it shows how immature and how they dont have a clue. My boyfriend is a great guy. He is great with his kids and mine. He is going to watch my 4 while I am at work on 2nd shift. It is just that when I get overwhelmed he doesnt understand why. we have a great relationship
2007-03-01 01:12:33 · update #1
i think you both need to be fixed and stop bring kids into the world
i can't even imagine after 6 kids to have another one
he won't change you better ask a few questions
why does he have kids he does not have all the time
how does he act with his kids or kids in general
seems to me he is just a baby maker and does not want to be involved
i suggest you think about what you are doing and what is happening in your life
think about what would happen if he left you and you are with another kid with no dad
all this is not mean ITS FACTS you have to think about
2007-03-01 01:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you sound really overwhelmed - how will you manage it all? Let BF know that you are PG which means you will have mood swings and he will just have to roll with it b/c this is what it means to be a parent. There will be no rhyme or reason for these moods so he will have to learn to go with the flow and figure out for himself some way to cope - suggest that this is the time when you need even more love, attention and pampering - at least until the mood swings pass. Good luck.
2007-03-01 01:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect him to understand. He doesn't feel what you feel. So perhaps you are expecting too much.
With that said, I think you want him to be understanding. To just have a general sense that you are having these moods.
HOWEVER, they are no excuse for behaving badly. I'm not saying you are or are not. I am asking that you examine your behavior to see if it is on occasion in the category of behaving badly. Ask him how he perceives your behavior, and don't defend, don't offer excuses, thank him for his honesty and work on the things that bother him the most.
You may not be able to turn the feelings off or on, but how you respond to the feelings IS TOTALLY under your control.
I suspect that you are on occasion, behaving badly, we all do. I wonder if he is not asking you to turn off the feelings, but instead, asking you to better control how you handle or respond to those feelings.
So my advice is:
1. Understand he has no way of understanding exactly how you feel.
2. It's OK to want him to be understanding in a general sense, but he probably cannot identify with how you feel.
3. He probably doesn't want you to turn off the feelings, but protect him from bad behaviors in response to those feelings.
4. You have total control over how you handle the mood.
5. Being pregnant is not a good excuse for bad behavior.
Take what is useful and what applies, and please don't be offended if what I've written doesn't apply, it's general advice and not a judgment regarding your or your behavior. This is meant only to provoke thought and self awareness.
2007-03-01 01:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having a baby with a BOYFRIEND?
Good God...there are already 6 kids between the both of you...and another on the way. Reproduction doesn't constitute a commitment. I would say go to couples counseling...BUT I doubt you guys have any money for that. Buy a book on pregnancy....But, he obviously didn't pay attention to his ex's two pregnancies. Get your tubes tied...HELL I'LL PAY FOR IT!!!
2007-03-01 01:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's common to experience a wide range of mood swings and emotional changes during pregnancy, he should be aware of this
here is a great site on how to manage your moods during pregnancy,
Oh and to all those rude people before me why dont you all get a ******* life how dare you speak to her like that
2007-03-01 01:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's that unsensitive and you don't communicate well enough for him to understand and be sympathetic maybe you shouldn't have gotten preg with his kid. Not to be mean, but if he's that much of a jerk you should have known it would be like this.
2007-03-01 01:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by jessidawn_69 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are one horny b!tcha ho.
2007-03-01 01:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋