Ok, I'm doing this for my best friend of 20years. She just got married about a year and a half ago. Just recently (3 months) her husband is less than willing to have sex with her. Now, he is also an avid "gamer" and is on the computer A LOT. She feels that having sex with him is important for her because this is "thier time" and she has his full attention. She asked for my advice, but I don't know what to say. Just from me watching thier interaction, he seems like he has no sex drive and no desire to have sex. He told her that if it bothers her so much she better start masturbating. Who says that to thier wife? They are only 26 and 27, with no children. Shouldn't they be having sex all over? Please help me help her. She has also tried to get him to the doctor but he says it is not pysical because he masturabtes just fine. This just baffles me.
2007-03-01 00:55:46 · 11 answers · asked by poeticmami 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is something seriously wrong. Several things could have happened.. Either he is ashamed of something... aka. affair. or is afraid of not measuring up to ppl in her past? his performance.. but it is not healthy and will lead to the destruction of their marriage. If he is an avid gamer, that means he is trying to escape real life, not deal with his problems. She really needs to sit down with him face to face and make him talk to her.. not be criticizing, but to ask honest questions to which he can't wiggle out of.. Just because he masterbates fine, doesn't mean he may not have an issue, but instead of a reg doctor, her best bet is to go to a shrink, I'm not a big advocate of them, but there is something wrong.. I'm speaking from experience on this one.. I was 23 and my hubby would come in at 9pm sit down with a playstation and when i would get up for work the next morning he would still be playing.. and we had serious issues... so maybe he needs to talk to a guy friend, shrink.. anyone.. but it needs to get out in the open..
2007-03-01 01:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Belindakelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he spends alot of time on the computer is to me, a red flag right there.
He masturbates just fine? He's too busy getting off on stuff on the computer...
2007-03-01 09:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid spending time on the computer may mean he is looking at pornography which may be the reason he "masturbates just fine". He needs to go to counseling or set her free.
2007-03-01 09:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by donna h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kids today have video games and things that occupy time. i suppose there are some who are so addicted that sex would get a lower priority rating than the games. i personally prefer sex over anything else.
2007-03-01 09:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should move on. This is not normal for any man at that age. Sounds like he could have his eye on someone else, she might as well get out now while she is still young and not waste her life on this loser.
2007-03-01 09:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she can either take stock out in EVERREADY batteries OR she can start getting dressed up at night and head out to have some other guy take care of her sexual needs...good luck to you. Errrrr, I mean her!
2007-03-01 10:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is the one who should be baffled....when we were that age we were having sex 4 times a day......they are not in a healthy relationship and chances are, it won't get better.....
2007-03-01 09:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he is seeing someone else. That is almost the first and foremost sign he is getting it on with someone other than his wife.
2007-03-01 10:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his husband has a problem that why no interest for sex...
2007-03-01 09:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by edsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend and I should hook up...lol i dont get enough from my wife... I have a very high sex drive.
2007-03-01 09:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by needingitnow342000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋