Is there anyway I can get rid of this profound feeling of being a woman trapped in a man's body?

Question

I need help. I am scared, I want to be normal but I cannot reconcile my body with my sense of identity. I have always felt very strongly that I should have been born female, but I know my body is not. The older I get the harder it is for me to keep fighting my identity and complying with social pressures to "fit in". I do not want to feel this way, is there any way I can get rid of these feelings and find peace with who I really am?

Answer 1

The feelings that you have are perfectly normal, it is never wrong to feel a certain way. If you really feel this way, then please get yourself into a therapy session with a gender therapist. They can make sure that you are not suffering from a mental disorder, and make sure that you are normal. After some months of therapy they can get you on hormones that will feminize your apperance.

There is nothing wrong with how you feel. What you feel will get stronger in time, and harder to ignore. The only way that people have found inner peace when they feel as you do is to complete a gender transition, those who don't usually end up with a life not worth living or do suicide. Check out www.tsroadmap.com, or please e-mail me if you want help or have any questions. I know of several websites that can help you find a therapist, or even other people like yourself to talk to.

Answer 2

I dont think you can, probably not the answer you want to here, but these feelings wont go away, you are going to have to face it sooner or later! Firstly I would suggest that you learn more about transexuality, and start to find out the real you, not any easy road but it is possible. Also go to see your GP and discuss with him / her get some help, professionally and some counciling, they may be able to advise you of best way forward or help you cope with how you feel? I sympathisis with how you feel, bit there is nothing wrong with you, and it is not wrong to feel the waay you do, Ignore these idiots that will tell you otherwise, you are a person and each person has a right to a happy life. In terms of wanting to be normal, define normality? there is no definition there is no right or wrong, there is simply you stuck in a position that feels wrong, not because it is wrong but because it is deemed outside the norm? I have a freind who is in a similar situation, so if you would like to chat feel free to mail me. Only you will know what is best for you, and ultimatly that is all that matters.
I hope things work out for you and there is some good advice above. You got to be happy with you the rest will fall into place.

Answer 3

The younger you are the easier it is to change. If you leave it too long, you will end up looking like a stereotypical transvestite, and you will face a lot more hardships, and lose a lot more friends and family, and perhaps a wife or partner, if you have them too. Also, it is harder to rebuild your life the older you get too, in terms of career and where you live etc.

You dont seem to be sure of what you want, so i would advise you to see a psych of some kind, best to see a gender psych who deals with things like this. But i dont think you will be able to ignore the feelings, being ts, tv, gay or whatever is something that you are born with and something you will die with. The best thing you can do ultimately is to be absolutely honest with yourself, and be prepared for the consequences of what you can choose. It isnt always the end of the world if you decide to change sex, but it mostly is.

Answer 4

There are ways.
Though homosexuality isn't diagnosed, you can be diagnosed as a transvestite. (Don't reject this immediately, hear me out, please.) It is actually very possible if you feel so strongly about this that you actually have an XX chromosome and not the XY, which would make you a guy. That's the most common form of it and it's what makes people like you feel so strongly about being the opposite sex, because you really are one biologically, you just got glitched up as a fetus and testosterone was pumped in when it shouldn't have, making you have a guy body.
You can be tested for this and other forms of transvestite...ness. The only way (if you are one) to be "at peace" would be a sex change, as there's no way to change your gender in your brain.

Answer 5

There are many possible reasons for you feelings. Please know that questions of gender aren't as black and white as many of us feel most comfortable thinking. For example, did you know that girls who have a male fraternal twin are significantly more likely to have masculine traits as girls who don't? They are also more likely to identify as males. This is true for animals as well. Scientists have found some female animals who are located between males in utero are much more likely to have aggressive and other "masculine" tendencies. This is most likely due to their greater exposure to male hormones before birth. Female hormones too, can have a feminizing influence upon males, and when it happens in utero its impact can be lifelong. Also, I encourage you to look into a chromosomal condition called Klinefelter's Syndrome, as another poster had alluded to. This is when a person has 2 or more X Chromosomes and 1 Y Chromosome. So, you could argue that these people don't really have men's bodies or women's bodies but a little of both. I think we place too much emphasis on genitalia. Having a penis alone doesn't make a person a man. In fact, many people have ambiguous genitalia or some characteristics of the genitalia of both males and females. Don't let this scientifically illiterate society's lack of information/wisdom be your problem. Please see a doctor and/or psychiatrist who specializes in these issues and get into a support group.

There is a reason for absolutely everything and every single person's body is beautiful.

Answer 6

first ill say i have transitioned fully, so i understand not being able to live the lie, but if you want to be a person who is male living in a male body i think your only hope is therapy and maybe hormone treatments so stengthen your masculiity

however, i feel like for me, it was about making my body match my sould so i could live an easier life, and if your looking to do that then the first step is finding a support group, who can get you in touch with all the docs needed for homones and possibly surgery, although its not neccasarhy to have surgery to be a woman,

also you can try being a woman in private and see how that feels, dress , walk talk and act female when your alone, it helped for me because i found out that i WAS much more comfortable in my new life that way

Answer 7

I met an older gentleman about 30 years ago with the same problem . Not sure how old you are but I am sorry for your difficulties . I'm recovering from all sorts of stuff and it always boils down to acceptance . Good luck and best wishes .

Answer 8

Getting your expression and body to match your sense of identity is the only way.

Answer 9

you are who you are .how do you know you are trapped in a mans body .if you haven't been a man .or visa versa .I don't know what its like to be the opposite sex.We all get scared about some thing in life best of luck to sort out things

Answer 10

Most large cities have groups that deal with Trans-gender issues.