My friend has been engaged to his fiancee for a few months. They both love each other, but he only knew her for a week before they got engaged, and he came to me asking how he should tell her that he loves her. So I told him to talk to her, and he told me that he got engaged to her. And he has been lending her a lot of money. He has lent her over $5k AUD now, and its still going. She says that its for work,she comes from Malaysia, and that's how they do business in that country, is that she is a project coordinator and she collects clients and gets projects, that she has to pay them to hire her, and then if she does a good job they will pay her. I think that this is a lie, and she is just using him. What should I say to him? I don't want to tell him that she is using him, and that the relationship won't last.
2007-02-28 23:18:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She isn't an Australian citizen, she lives and works in Malaysia, but he is a citizen, and she chain smokes like nobody's business. And the money she borrows isn't small amounts, its like several hundreds of dollars.
2007-02-28 23:40:11 · update #1
Since I am not familiar with the employment laws of Malaysia, I cannot make a judgement against her. She could very well be telling the truth. I have heard of some American companies charging a fee to employees to obtain a job. I understand your concern for your friend, but you need to some honest research on her company and her background before you go to him with your feelings about his girlfriend. He loves her, and will naturally not want to believe you. If you have solid evidence, you need to physically show him your proof.
2007-02-28 23:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a gold-digger! Maybe the "honey" she's giving him is good enough to blind him. If that's how they do business in Malaysia, then her COMPANY will give her "incentive money" for prospective clients. There's a new wardrobe and furniture in this chick's house, for sure! (All funded by him!)
2007-03-01 07:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Pekoe90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's lying!!! 1 week doesn't really allow you to fall in love with someone with whom you would like to spend the rest of your life with. Is she an aus citizen?? If she is'nt she may be in it for a green card. Then again, your friend will be heart-broken if you tell him not to marry her. I think you should give him your support, tell him whatever his decision is entirely up to him.
2007-03-01 07:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by *grid_iron gurl* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Talk to him but b sensitive to his feeling about her. Just walk him through why her explaination doesn't make sense and maybe he should make some phone calls to see where is money is going. He shouldn't lend/give her any more.
2007-03-01 07:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by red_shoes_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is talk to him seriously once to tell him how you feel.and then keep youre mouth shut.It will be a costly experiance for him,but he will find out on his own.We all have to.
2007-03-01 07:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by mygrandparentsrthebestintheworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he will go back naked without anything tell him the truth of the matter and u will be blessed as per ur words the girl is using him.
2007-03-01 07:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by titi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a snake in the wood pile here! Something does not make sense! He should cut his loses and get rid of her before she bleeds him dry!
2007-03-01 07:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! yeah, welll if you already told your friend to back off, then thats all you can do!
You need to let your friend find out for himself, he is really wasting his money!
2007-03-01 07:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just using him and you NEED to tell him this.
2007-03-01 07:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you`d better let him burn himself...next time he will be more defensive.Life is a lesson.
2007-03-01 07:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rotten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋