Cheating or not cheating?

Question

Is it cheating if you are involved in an emotionless mental relationship with someone other than your spouse? Secret meetings filled with intriguing and mentally stimulating conversation...no mention or actions of a sexual nature...EVER!!!

I have yet to engage in this act, but have often contemplated the idea. Are any of you females interested in helping take this step???... I crave a substantive conversation!!!

RE:NovaGirl117...
Educated... Law Degree
White...Self Explanatory
Thug...I still find myself looking for trouble and portraying a street image. Underneath the shirt and tie is a vast display of art that shows my past...and I am still proud to show it off.

Answer 1

It's not cheating unless you blow your wad.

Answer 2

if you are a man and your spouse is a woman(not a man too), then yes , it is cheating..you are at one step of having even a sexual relation.
You must not get involve emotionally with other the your wife.This take you to divorce..

Try to get emotionally involved with your wife and chalange her. Remember the time you both fall in love and started ...behave in the same style... Send her ''signals ''and she shall answer you...Glance at her ..etc..

Once when I and my husband were in our 20', I noticed that he was interested in the style of a whore (a colegue of his), and without realising I get emotionally involved with another boy ..He also talked to me resulting he is ''very emotionally involved''and we talked only on objective , oficially topics and we met only ''oficialy''. I didn't separated , and the other didn't try to make me separate , but I suffered . After years he also get married and it 's been 12 years since then we both have different families and I hardly get him out of my mind and only when I realised he was stupid because he said something stupid over a subject from Bible . He considered himself as great as Noah, actually., and others...reffering to woman..

And only because of this I succeded to give up the ideea ..I would have loved to be marry with him!My fiancee(my actual husband) was influenced by knowing that we seem to like each other and the result is that he cheated on me ...twice by now, although I never cheated ..sexually..Because the lack of love is felt and generates someone's future actions...

Answer 3

I would have no problem with my man being involved with someone who is mental stimulating, I would not class this as cheating. I perhaps would be a bit worried if it was kept secret from me, my mind would be working overtime if it was kept secret.

Answer 4

Wow. Never thought I would see the words "white" and "thug" come after "educated".
How exactly can you be educated and still call yourself a thug?

But to answer your question, as long as your spouse knows nothing about it, then yes, it could be considered cheating.

Answer 5

Would your spouse approve if they found out? Would you be willing to tell them? If so, then it is not cheating. If not, then the questions is, why? Secret is fine, but guilty secret is not.

Answer 6

My best advice to you is, your spouse is probably doing worse than thinking it,he's probably actually doing it. why not have fun thinking about someone a little more romantic or fresh and new. indulge yourself and have fun.

Answer 7

I don't think it's cheating,1 person can't satisfy all of our needs.

Answer 8

If it's something you have to hide and/or feel guilty about disclosing to your partner then it is cheating.

Answer 9

if it makes you feel guilty you probably should break it off.
it's not sexual yet, but the possibility is there.

Answer 10

If you have to keep it a secret, you shouldn't be doing it.