sometimes my mum and i get along great but sometimes she gets really tipsy and she cant pronounce her words and i get frustrated and then we start a fight. but this is what she does, she binge drinks by herself out in the backyard with a pack of ciggies, she smokes out the whole house out so i feel sick and THEN asks me why i dont want to live with her!!! but this isnt something that happens once in a while, she does it atleast 3 or 4 times a week. but when she does this i really dislike her, i almost hate her and i want to move in with my dad but by the time i talk to my dad our fight is over so its like all my anger and my excitement to get away from her was for no reason, so im happy that my fight is over with my mum but i no soon im going to have another one and wish i had moved in with my dad. help!!!!
2007-02-28 22:55:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
try telling her how u feel,maybe she has worries and this is how she is trying to cope with it.maybe shes jealous of ur realionship with ur dad.ask her to go counciling with u.i hope u sort this out dont give up on her u only have 1mum
2007-03-01 00:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by michellejoryeff j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mum has something troubleing her and shes using the drinking and smoking to escape her worries. Talk to her when she is sober and tell her how this is affecting you. Ask her why she does this and if there is anything on her mind as a problem shared is a problem solved or it will make her feel better once shes opened up anyway. Maybe advice her to get some counselling this will really help her to deal with things.
I think if she really wont change or listen to you then you are best to move out. You've got to think about your own wellfare if you mum is'nt. You never know this may be the wakeup call your mum needs because if she really dont want you to leave then she will make an effort to change her ways. Good Luck!
2007-03-01 09:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart conversation with your mother while she is sober, let her know you don't like what she is doing and if she keeps it up you will move in with your dad.
Just ne honest with her no matter how much it will hurt, maybe if you open up to her and tell her exactly how you feel she will come to her senses and calm it down a bit. If not leave, go live with your dad!
2007-03-01 13:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and let her know that you don't like that she's drinking and smoking in front of you. Let her know that you want her to be able to take care of you and be a role model. Ask her what she would do if you started to do the same things she is and maybe she will think twice about how she acts around you.
2007-03-01 07:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out! My boyfriend had this prob with his mum, except she is a total alcoholic! I don't know how old you are but in the end, my boyfriend and his younger brother were falsed to move in with their grandparents because they wouldn't allow them to live with her anymore. I know how messed up it has made him emotionally. Don't let it ge that bad, move out and keep yourself sane. i moved out of my mums to my dads when I was 13 too, I got along with her a lot better after that as we were always under eachothers feet etc. Good luck!
2007-03-01 07:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom while she's sober, and tell her that you seriously want to move in with your dad. And then, when whatever goes around, don't change your mind at the last minute. Once you make your decision, stick with it.
2007-03-01 07:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vidio her when shes like this then show her when she is sober and see what her reaction is you need to talk to her when she is sober and if nothin changes move in with your dad maybe then she will realise that you are important to her and she will miss you.
good luck
2007-03-01 07:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by mummy to 3 miracles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try talking to a counslor at school about it.
2007-03-01 11:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Catlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋