My brother is clearly gay. He has the hand movements the talking and everything. The problem is not that he is gay but the fact he trys to hide it. He married the first girl that would marry him. They sleep in seperat beds and don't seem to have anytype of real married relationship. I don't mind that he is gay but I wish he could be happy with it and come out and just say it. I think he would be happier and more fulfiled person. How should I deal with him when I know this but don't want to be forceful about him coming out? I don't want to make him uncomfortable by the way I might act when he does some things that are sort of gay. He is 25 years old and I am 24. I just want to respect him the best I can on this issue but don't know how to act or feel about it.
2007-02-28 22:55:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
first of all, in reading this mess. he is a married man. so how could anyone with half a brain belive hes gay if hes gay or whatt. makes no sense none. so thery sleep in diferent beds. how do you know this do you control there sex lives. hes only 25 and married thats the focal point here. cant be gay. and if hes gay how are you gonna get around this road block without his current wife running too judge judy. this is to hard too take. most gays dont mary if there trully gay.
2007-03-01 00:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whoa! Go easy on him. He most likely knows not only about himself but what he would face if he did come out. It's not easy out here.
Respect his wishes and him for what he is trying to do. Will burying his life style hurt him in the long run-possible, but not certain.
If he ever feels the time is right to come out he will but at his own speed and time-respect that. He is trying to fit in, and he just may pull it off, but it may not be easy for him so why not support him in his decision. It's what he wants and NOT what you want-remember! I happen to be a lesbian and know just how hard it can be out here,
2007-02-28 23:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I suggest you get him more active, maybe a GSA or another gay rights advocate type of group in the area? HRC.org has some great coming out resources.
2007-03-01 01:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoever wrote tha answer above me is a lil off. i knw people who are gay and married. the only reason why they hide it is cause they cant take tha judgement of there family or other people. I'm not married and all, but i'm still hidin my sexuality from people, and i'm sure they knw i'm gay. like ur brother, i got tha movements, tha talk, tha walk, and still i say i'm straight. Some people cant take tha judgement, and some can. me and ur brother are tha ones that cant take it.
2007-03-01 01:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trusted my siblings with my gay secret before I told ANYBODY else, so talk to him. Create a safe place for him and assure him that his secret is safe with you as long as he needs it to be.
You might wanna get him slightly tipsy first - it loosens the tongue and destroys inhibitions.
2007-02-28 23:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hasnt come out of his mouth then you cannot believe it. He could just be a metrosexual.
2007-03-04 14:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by its_whatever11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell come out when ready i was 36 so there is hope
2007-03-01 10:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by arniesmum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone. focus on your own life and respect his space... be there for him if/ when he comes to you, otherwise leave it be... all you'd be doing is stirring up trouble...
2007-03-04 06:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋