hi i am 28 years old girl living with my boyfriend for over 2 years, i work full time, i enjoy living with my boyfriend as we love each other very much, i also enjoy my work, travelling around the world is something i try to do as much as possilbe. Recently i found myself kind of determined NOT to ever get married, only 'live in' with my boyfriend, if heaven forbid, we become seperate one day, i will find another man and live together without marriage, why am i thinking like this? i am just so happy to live the life i have, i really don't want to EVER get married, am i normal?
2007-02-28 22:54:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
definately is okay. It's your life, live it to the fullest the way YOU want to. I think it sounds GREAT to have a life with someone who loves me all while I get to travel around the world and stuff. You can still do all of the great things married couples can do with your boyfriend you just won't have it in a binding legal document.
Have fun living life to the fullest, don't look back or regret desicions you make. EVER
Although, if you want to raise kids it's best to do this while you are married. Don't be afraid of marriage either.
It's your life and your desicions.
2007-02-28 23:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by SarangHaeyo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very normal. Given the current pressures we women are given in society today this seems like an expected response if you ask me. Why should so m eone who enjoys her career and active lifestyle want to get married when marriage is presented to as settling down or giving up our lives for someone else it seems to come with a lot of stigmas that living with your boyfriends doesn't and its seems safer to stay as you are than risk being divorced later.
If the purpose of marraige is for love and companion ship- you already have that and you both are commited to each other by respectfully living together. I think you are realistic. You know that theres no such thing as one soul mate for one person and that we can be compatible with multiple partners in our life time and most likely you are an educated individual. The cost of a marriage ceremony can be expensive. You might just be thinking practically that the average cost of a wedding (25,000 to 32,000) could be better spend on household costs or a downpayment on a house.
2007-02-28 23:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by red_shoes_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Wow! I thought i was the only person out in this world feeling the same way. I have been living on and off with the woman i'm with for 11 years.I have no desire to get married either.I have the exact same feelings.So your not the only one out there .
2007-02-28 23:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Without a clue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me. Some people just aren't into marriage. Maybe you will get married if you find the right person or if you are comfortable enough with the person you are with.
My friend and his girlfriend have been together for almost 15 years and are unmarried. I have never seen anyone so in love or happy with things as they are.
Don't let it stress you.
2007-02-28 22:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by greenfan109 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is your family background. Did you have a dad around? Why do you shack up but don't want to committed (is it because it is cheaper,and more convenient for sex?) You travel a lot so really how much time are you with your boyfriend? Do you think renting your own place would be a waste of money since you travel so much? Do you plan on having children out of wedlock? I assume you do not want to have children.
2007-02-28 23:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
daf,
Why not? It seems you have an interesting career, and your life seems to be rich and fulfilling...you also live on your own coin, and ask no one for anything...seems you're doing ok in my book.
I wouldn't be too overly concerned about what others think (friends, family, etc.). You know your lifestyle better than anyone else, and these are your decisions (and yours alone) to make. Who knows? You may revise your thinking in the future, when it is convenient for you...and there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-28 23:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,
I think you are just afraid of a failed marriage..one can easily get disillusioned about marriage by the number of divorces happening on a daily basis..maybe you will change a mind in a few years when you get the desire ot have kids..i believe its better to raise children in the confines of marriage..
Living with your bf might be kind of a open ticket for you..if he doesn't work out, then you leave.This might not be best..if you are in a marriage, you get the urge to work harder to make sure it works, more than you would in bf/gf relationship..
All the best.
2007-02-28 23:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by sweetDove 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its perfectly normal, if your enjoying one another, then by all means, if your not ready or don't want to then don't! Live your life in the manner that makes you happy!!
2007-02-28 23:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the world will not end if you dont get married, many many people go there whole lifes single and still have a great sex and loving, careing life, do what you think is right
2007-02-28 22:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Normal", is what works for you! It wouldn't work, if you did get married, feeling like you do. Enjoy your life...it's YOUR business whether you get married or not.
2007-02-28 23:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋