About two months ago I woke up having a huge anxiety attack aswell as depression to go along with that. The thought that I woke up with was that "What if I have fallen out of love with John (my current boyfriend)" The thought scared me to death and slowly my feelings came back. I went from hating him one day to loving him the next...back and forth for about 2 months.
So all in all I am wondering if what I am having anxiety because I HAVE fallen out of love. Am I convincing myself that I love him...I almost feel like I have someone telling me "no you dont love him" I dont know what to do. It is ruining my end of the relationship. I still love spending time with him and love doing nice things for him. We are affectionate and laugh alot together.
Although, my relationship before this one was drama filled tied in with a bit of abuse, emotionally and physically I am very scared to see my ex around town because I dont feel as though I have enough self control to tell him that I dont want to be with him. I think of him often not only of good things but bad too and I guess I am just waiting for the day that it really doesnt bother me to see him anymore....
I want to be with John forever and it will kill me to have to end things with him. Keep in mind this is my 1st non dramatic relationship and it is a "healthy" relationship. My friends say I am most myself when I am around him. So I dont know what to think about it, how do I know if I am convincing myself or not, how do I know if I am just doing this for my family and friends?
Thanks
Sincerely,
So confused
2007-02-28 22:47:59 · 5 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You had a BAD dream, and you cant allow those bad dreams to determine wheather or not you love somebody! You have those bad dreams because "Falling out of love and knowing what true love is" are your worst fears. When you have a fear against something in a realtionship that you dont want to happen, your dreams usually become that.
Dont take it as a sign, you said you love him and care for him, now listen to your spirit and heart, not your brain and your dreams.
2007-02-28 22:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked the same question many times. Are you not getting the answer that you want to hear?? I dont get it,... you sound like you love him, and people tell you to stay with him, and then you ask another one of the same questions. You keep saying this is your first non dramatic relationship. I think that bugs you. If so, then you should let John go and find someone thats going to give you a dramatic life. I dont know why your so mixed up about John. He sounds nice. Dont do anything for family or friends,.. do it for you and John. If you cant do it for the two of you, then you need to let him go.
2007-02-28 23:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the dreams and anxiety you are having may stem from your past abusive relationship. I think you may still have some trust issues deep inside that are bothering you. It sounds like you are in a good relationship with a guy who treats you well and is respectful to you. After having drama in your life for so long, you are still wondering if you can have a healthy relationship that will last. I real;ly think that is where these feelings are coming from. Carry on with your relationship and look at him for the person he is. Put those bad things behind you but remember the lesson you learned from them.
2007-02-28 23:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My HONEST advice??? You need to leave BOTH of them, move to another city, allow yourself time to heal and mature, then find a guy. I don't think you LOVE either one of them. You're confused, and need time to focus on you, and what's best for YOU.....and it's neither one of these guys. Good Luck!!
2007-02-28 23:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that's just stupid. Stop telling yourself that you don't love him anymore because you do!
Forget the past and live your life
2007-02-28 22:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Martin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋