recently i have noticed that she is not bothered about anything at home. most of the time office work is her priority inspite of having 2 small (3 years & 1.5 years) who frequently fall ill. sex is avoided with intelligent excuses. is she cheating on me or am i suspecting unnecessary?
2007-02-28 22:26:47 · 17 answers · asked by adityaganesh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Drastic change to a person's lifestyle is really something to be alarmed about if she went from good to bad in a short period of time yes you should suspect something is happening that is not ok to your relationship. If this has happened over a long period of time then give it a little time before you suspect but be catious. No matter how hard people try to fight it the farther you get into a relationship a lot of personal, sexual and emotional things change and slow down. If you feel it in your stomach that this is what is going on most likely it is do not ignore your gut instinct thats the brain and the heart working togethere.
2007-02-28 23:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if you are serious about finding out if your wife is cheating on you its time to become a detective. People are and will always be creatures of habit. Look for changes such as better grooming, a new hairstyle, things that she would normally do stand out. The lack of sex intrest can be a number of things, but check her purse to see if she is packing condoms and such. That would be a dead givaway especially since you are not having sex with her. If you have access to her cell phone records I would look into that. Look for unfamiliar numbers. If you suspect an affair brewing in her office, then you need to start checking her coworkers stories about her activities. If she is indeed cheating, then there will be some evidence of it. People are not perfect and slip up all the time, you just have to be prepared when the opportunity arises. Before you go on this mad chase of trying to track down if she is cheating, look for other signs of discontent and just ask her how she is doing. Really try and make an effort to get a glimpse of how your wife is really feeling about you the marriage and kids. Maybe she just needs a break and a little relaxation. Well happy hunting.
2007-03-01 06:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasnt lost interest in you...maybe shes stressed out at work or is feeling unappreciated etc....you dont know. The key to a good relationship is communcation. If you dont talk then you grow part. Ask her what's wrong? Make her feel like you really care for her and are interested in what's going on with her life. It could be anything but if you're genuinely worries that shes cheating then investigate more before you go accusing her? Once you get some evidence then go ahead and do what you will with it.
2007-03-01 06:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by mautte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience....She has lost interest in you. So if she hasn't found a guy to "fill the void", she soon will. Don't let this drag on. Arrange a time for the two of you to talk about it. It may take several conversations to get the whole truth. It may end up being painful for you. But living miserably with the truth is better than living in suspicion. At least that's been my experience. When it's over for her, there is nothing you can do to change her mind.
2007-03-01 06:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by deacon_gumbo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just ask her and look for her response signals. If, for example, she touches any part of her face, she's lying. You know, a scratch the nose, or pick something from her eye, rubbing her chin, etc. Also, hand movements and other jittery movements are signals of deception. Hell, she may just come out and tell you. If you're lucky that is....
And maybe she's just really busy at work and has lost sight of what is important. You need to have a talk with her one way or the other and regardless of the outcome.
2007-03-01 07:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a women through yahoo messenger. She is married about 12 years.
She never cheating to her husband. But she told me she’s life is very boring.
The husband never help her for anything. And he spend time only 2-3 days in
home with a family. But that women needs him more & he’s love. Anyway now
she doing sex with me. she loved me. She wants me than her husband.
1. Sometimes She have another guy.
2. Check her mobile.
3. Check her Chat friend list.
4. Check her emails.
5. Check her Bank Account.
2007-03-01 06:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just keeping looking for the little things, try to catch them in a lie, that or just trust your gut feeliing. Most of the time that is true. I had a gut feeling so bad that it was tearing my stomach up because I suspected my husband was cheating...well I was right.
2007-03-01 10:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is- Are you being a good husband or are you being a bludger? i have noticed with my mrs, if I'm a lazy bastard and do nothing around the house then she ignores me and doesn't wanna play friendly! If you are being helpful and she is still being suss go to the spy shop and buy some gear to find out for real. or you could just ask her OR maybe you could get a baby sitter to mind the kids and take her on a ROMANTIC evening to spark up the love???
2007-03-01 06:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Danny boy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you want sex if you were working full time, running the home and caring for two small children. She will be tired all the time. Help her and get the spark back in your life.
2007-03-01 06:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that...
By now just that look in her eyes when you ask her should be enough of a tell-tale sign...
Just remember, if there is no longer that "spark" in the marriage, the worst thing to do is staying married for the sake of the kids
make sure you know the facts before making your decision conclusive
2007-03-01 06:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋