my wife is very innocent and she loved me a lot. before our marriage i hav visited prostitute girls please help me out because i am afraid that if she get to know by someone else than what, some of my friends knows all this thing and now we had a cold war between us(me and my friends)
2007-02-28 22:08:39 · 32 answers · asked by ravi r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only if you want a divorce or your **** is falling off from aids or heebie geebies or something.
2007-02-28 22:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell your wife, because it is better that she hears it from you and not anyone else.
Of course do not expect her to be completely thrilled at the idea that you had intercourse with other women and were unfaithful to her (while she seems to have been to you).
It is also a good idea that both of you get checked by a doctor for sexually transmitted diseases, since there are just too many risks these days (even if you used protection). If you are afraid of relatives finding out about you and your wife getting checked out, go to a doctor that will keep all the information confidential.
Finally, after you tell your wife, there will be a loss of trust on her behalf. She will not know whether you will go out and do that again or not (since it did not happen once but numerous times).
You have to think about why you did it, and if you feel that something may be missing from your sexual relationship then you should talk to her about it. If that does not help then maybe you should both seek counseling.
It seems that you want this marriage to work, so the first step you have to take is to be honest with her about what happened, no matter how afraid you may be of her reaction. If you hide this, then you will always feel a burden on your shoulders, and you may feel forced to keep covering up this situation with other lies if she comes to know from your friends.
Talk to her about it.
2007-03-03 21:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Orchyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since prostitutes have themselves open to every kind of STD imaginable....and by you sleeping with them, you've opened yourself up to catch their 5000 stds..and by sleeping with your wife, and NOT telling her about your past..you're subjecting her to anything you or those prostitutes might have gotten ....Yes, I think you should tell her. Its not fair for her not to know. Shes your wife and youre putting her in danger, that doesnt sound like love at all. I think you need to be open and honest with her, and then you both need to go get tested together. How would you feel if she had been a prostitute for a little while but failed to mention that to you? its kind of the same thing. She deserves to know your past if she's going to share her future with you.
2007-02-28 22:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Secrets always comes out of the dark in due time.
My ex has done this and when I learned about it I
just don't wanna sleep with him, I can't take the risk .
I've moved to the other room with my son until there's
no relationship between us..
We're now divorced for 9yrs, he's remarried, but that memory
is alive, I don't know if he still does it, but that trust was gone.
So may your best luck comes your way..
.
2007-02-28 23:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need.
If she ever found out, here is what u have to do. Take a good time to have a coffee and sit down and say nicely to her:
1stly bcoz u love her so much and when u thought about it (wether to tell her or not), its not 'worth it' to recall things that u did and hate for doing that, especially when u met someone special(your wife) who is so meaningful to your life.
U have put all behind & u only future ahead, with her, to love & build the loving family together.
Not to worry, all u have to offer is your sincerity.
2007-02-28 22:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman.. and my husband was stupid enough to tell me details about the women he slept with. I have no intention of divorcing him over these things, but, I'm a woman, and we do tend to never let go or forget anything. He told me enough dirt that I tend to use against him during nearly any argument, regardless the subject!
She should know (you should have already told her) that you were very sexually active in your past, however you prefer never to talk about the details and ask her to never tell you the details of her past sex-life.
You're current lover should know of your sexual past, how many lovers and if you did or did not use protection... other than that, they don't need to know if it was a one night stand or a commited relationship..
Also, go get tested, if you have an STD you must tell your wife that you have it, though she doesn't need to know when you obtained it or with whom...
2007-03-01 05:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, never ,never. Keep quiet. Don't care jealous friends. If wife comes to know of it later tell her they r jealous of your happy married life they do not have. Take a false oath if required to save marriage. Be religious a little bit to win her confidence.
2007-03-01 22:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her at least so she can get an AIDS test. She probably won't be upset as long as it was before you were married and not during your relationship or marriage. Be honest she deserves your honesty if nothing else.
2007-02-28 23:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when we practice to decieve. Everything was just fine when you thought you would never get caught but NOW you are scared? Chances are either way she will leave you, I would. i don't think you should hurt her just because you are scared and trying to save your own butt. She is going to be so hurt if she finds out no matter who tells her. Just hope that people have enough heart to not hurt her just because they want to hurt you.
2007-03-01 00:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should never say ur wife about this,what u did n past is allready a past,imp u dont do any more.being a girl i can tell u that a wife will never take it easyly.tell her that u have a fight with ur friends n thats y they r trying to pull ur legs n she should have faith on u.If u say ur wife about those black spots of ur life then may b she will start to doubt u n future.
2007-02-28 22:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you in a relationship with her while you went and visited these prostitutes? Checked yourself for STD's? Honesty is usually the best policy and in this case where there is a chance she will find out, it is best to confess it to her first and try and explain your actions. She will be hurt but will respecty you for coming clean.
2007-02-28 22:16:01 · answer #11 · answered by glimpseofthesky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋