my 6yr son came home the other night with a leaflet about cheerleading he was so excited about it I was a little dubious half off me thinks well why not if he really wants to whats wrong with that. Then the other half is like I don't want him to be bullied (kids at his school go about saying gayboy etc to each other) kids can be so cruel Also i don't want to bring my sons up thinking that its ok to be sexist about things (its a girls or boys thing) or prejudice about sexuality etc But at this age i don't know the right thing to do PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-02-28 21:49:33 · 21 answers · asked by curiouskel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i want to as he does enjoy sports he does do tae kwon do twice a week (he has adhd & gets quite upset or angry when people say nasty things to him) but my partner thinks i'm setting up for further bullying as its a "girls thing" (he got called gayboy already/ although i'm not sure if they even know what it means when they say it) Although i bring him up that everybody is the same and whatever he wants or does i love and support him am i setting him up. Thanks for the answers so far it does make me feel better about letting him do it but don't want my partner to say i told you so if he does get picked on os worse hit for it. I don't want my son to fear doing anything through other peoples small minds (through the way they're taught) to do things thats not the "right" way
2007-02-28 23:05:17 · update #1
If he wants to give it a try let him....
2007-02-28 22:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it , it is an great way to stay fit and the boys eventually do most of the lifting, so it would turn out to be great strength training for him. Also think long term he will be in with the girl crowd before any of his classmates and by the time he is a teenager this will be something his friends will be jealous about. Also how may phases of liking things do kids go through this may just be a flash in the pan, let him go he may change his mind after a few weeks. Just remember he'll always be able to say I have a parent who supoports me in whatever I do.
2007-02-28 21:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my son, i would let him do it, if he does not like it he will soon stop going.
At this age they will want to try everything.
As for the other children, they might not be as bad as you think, i know they can tease each other, but at the end of the day your son has got the courage to try it.
Good luck with what you decided to do.
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After reading the extra bit you have put in, it sounds like it is your husband that has the problem.
It might make your son grow into a stronger man, with a mind of his own and not following what others do or say.
2007-02-28 22:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do it!! If he wants to but sit down with him and explain the prejudice and answer any questions he has, if you expalin that some people may not understand why he wants to be a cheerleader then he can make a informed decision!
You have to tell him because at his age he might not realise!
My brother used to play with Dolls all the time, now he is the biggest ladys man going! I really would not worry
2007-03-08 19:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do it, at six kids can say mean things but it's less likely to be an issue at this age. Don't let your worries put you off and if there is any backlash from it speak to the school. He has a right to join whatever activity he likes without fear.
2007-03-02 08:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do it - he will be able to make the descision if he wants to carry on with it IF he encounters a problem. You should at least let him try.
The potential damage you can cause by telling him that he can't do something because some people think it is just for girls is worse in my opinion, than the potential damage that him taking part would cause.
Bullying is NOT acceptable, and if it comes up it needs to be tackled and dealt with. let your son stand up and be who he wants to be - if he truly wants to do this, you can deal with the bullying via appropriate means.
2007-02-28 21:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had boys on my elementary school cheer team. None of them have been destroyed by any teasing they may have endured. I think if they were really bothered by bullies they would have quit.
Go ahead and let him try it. If he really loves it he'll stick it out no matter what. :^)
Also, if he wants to see some of the cool things he can learn to do through cheerleading, you should watch some of these videos together:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmBU3HKoeww
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUw7MzmGpno
And there will be College cheering on ESPN2 3/11 3pm.
2007-03-01 06:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Coach ~Jen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheerleading squads usually have boys on them too. It's nothing odd and I doubt that he'll get picked on for it. If your bringing him up with the right attitude other peoples comments won't bother him anyway. Plus if he was worried that other kids would make fun he wouldn't be so excited about doing it, maybe there are other boys in the class talking about doing it too.
2007-02-28 21:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about the bully's there going to be mean no matter what you do. But let him try it maybe it's a phase he's going threw. But you'll feel bad if you don't let him because maybe this is what he really wants and you always have to let them experience things for them self.
2007-03-07 18:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let him do it...He might get picked on by some of the kids who parents havent taught them any better... parents force their opinions on their kids, they teach them that some sports are just for girls or just for boys, that some foods are nasty, and that some habits are okay...and if other kids dont believe the same thing..the cruel kid picks on them.. but in the end if it makes your son happy, let him do it.. if you dont ...he will remember that forever
2007-02-28 22:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by babie00269 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a great chance for him to meet and hangout with good looking girls.
You should also try get him involved with either gymnastics or martial arts and let him know that this will help him with cheerleading.
He may actually prefer one of those and stick with it instead.
2007-02-28 22:02:02 · answer #11 · answered by shirju_rich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋