i am doing B.C.A(bachelor of computer science) and she is doing her (LAW). Please give me a solution so that our parents will agree for this. My age is 22 and she is 20.
2007-02-28 21:45:52 · 11 answers · asked by vinita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
frankly speaking u cant change the feelings of parents if they are not aggreed to ur marriage. first tell them u are in love with each other and wanna marry each other, see what will be the reaction. if ur very serious for her then marry her in court and let the remain on god, but be assure that gal will never say that he forced me for marriage otherwise ur life and ur parents life will be hell.
2007-02-28 21:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Manu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the religion that would come between you guys. It never did. It's the sick mentallity of people thinking that there are different sets of human races and each persaon belonging to a set must pertain to itrs own set.....
Nobody is muslim or a hindu because he/she is born in that family. He/she is hindu or a muslim or a christian because he/she is developed in that culture. RELIGION IS AN INDUCTION of FEW ETHICS INTO US. IT'S NOT OUR IDENTITY. It's something we need to follow to lead a stable, healthy and hygenic life, not to create discrimination. If you study the rituals of your religion carefully you will understand that it is technically oriented more towards mental and physical fitness of a person and not towards other religions.
I've seen a few inter-racial marraiges nad seen them get along well.... You two have already accepted each other inspite of the religious differences because there's a human being inside you who is out of the religious bounds. Come on set yourself free. What has religion got to do with love.
You have a lucky opportunity to blend tweo different great cultures. Go ahead.
You have to win trust of your parents. You gotta develop the kind of wisdom that your parents should rely on you for every decision you make. The main reason why parents don't considers their childrens choices for marriages is that they don't trust their kids capability of making decisions. They believe that your wisdom is limited to a definite scope. Prove that you can make no wrong decisions. Prove that you are the best judge for your family's welfare. I'm sure the would opt out the stupid caste/religion mentallity if they believe that your choice is the perfect one.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-01 10:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the relations are of love alone, parents of both will not be hurted having provided the chances & facilities as silent spectators to love each other.
Of course there cannot a lawful marriage between both unless one converts to other's religion or the marriage is solemnised under Special Marriage Act 1954 in India. Neithr Islam nor Hindu Marriage Act 1955 permits such marriage. Islam is a religion, a complete Code of Life, to guide at all steps, times & places. Hinduism is not a religion. It is a culture, tradition, custom, way of Hindus life in Hindustan (India). None can convert into Hinduism. A Hindu is born to Hindus in Hindustan (India) and practises Hinduism. Hindu may have any religion of his choice, while remaining a Hindu by nativity. Hindus are becoming Christians or Muslims voluntarily after satisfying themselves of their teachings & guidance.
The Muslim cannot become a Hindu yet a Hindu can adopt Islam as religion. If married under Special Marriage Act (commonly known as civil or court marriage) their children shall also have to marry the same way as neither Hindus nor Muslims may agree to marry them.
A wise decision will avoid all future problems.
2007-03-01 11:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is talk to your parents and tell them how you feel and why you think it is right to be with this girl. They have a choice to stand by you in your decision. If they choose not to, then you have to make a choice. What is more important? Satisfying your family or making a life with this girl? You can only try so hard to please everyone, do what you feel is the right thing :)
2007-03-01 06:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by niabir_254 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have the asnwer you want. IM american and if it was me i woudlnt care what they think id put true love first over waht they say to do> your from a diffrent cultlure or something where parents have 2 approve so i don tknow what to tell u there.
2007-03-01 06:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't convert yourshelf to muslim bcause this will hurt your parents more than anything just tel them you want to marry her and talk to her parents tell them you can be a better husband for her then any muslim might be.
2007-03-02 11:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by anu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two wanna get married, then you could maybe convert to Islam and not upset her parents. I had a christian friend who loved a muslim Girl, he had to convert to Islam to please her parents.
2007-03-01 05:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make it out, one of my friend had same story he had done arrange marriage with that gal n they are living happily now,
2007-03-01 06:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by hemant p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already talking in past tense.
2007-03-01 06:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by Celeste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convert yourself to muslim and i think it could be ok
2007-03-01 05:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋