why do women have to make the fathers of there children suffer by not letting the dads see them??

Answer 1

I am sorry if this is happening to you.THey are using the children as weapons.Every time some women want something or crave attention they come out with the old threat-----if you don't do this that or the other you'll never see the kids again.Get a new relationship and even if they don't want you they certainly don't want anyone else hanging round ---so its the old you'll never se the kids chestnut again!
I've noticed recently some have started wanting to officially change kids names which is upsetting.I think some solicitors have come up with it as a new money making scheme.A lot of this type of woman is on free legal advice and it costs the father a fortune to hire a solicitor if he is working.
My mother led me to believe my father had left us and I never saw him for 25years.I had a low self image which will always be with me to a certain extent.
She had chucked him out(he was a bit of a lad)and wouldn't let him see me.He never said a word against her and I didn't find out the truth untill he was dead and it was too late!
I have been a publican for many many years and have seen the power these individuals have and am witness to the misery their actions cause.I always tell lads not to give in and make it known to all and sundry that they want to see their kids ---send cards and presents.If they don' t get them at least you tried and then when they do turn up you can tell the truth and the blame can rest where it belongs

Sorry all you wronged women I know we are not all alike!

Answer 2

Its a way to get back at the dad. These women are obviuosly not thinking about the kids are they? There just being selfish and childish. Imagine growing up without a dad in your life only because your mom didnt like your dad! Even though the mom has split with the dad, the dad may be a really good father to his children. I know a friend who has been through it himself, he didnt see his dad for 13 years! Long live Fathers For Justice!!

Answer 3

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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!

Answer 4

This is not the case for all mothers! Sometimes the fathers are the ones that dont bother. However if the father makes an effort and the mother doesn't allow the children to see them it is usually through spite and because they see it as a way to hurt the father and it gives them a hold on the father.

Answer 5

There are two sides. One, the woman feels hurt for some reason and is using this vindictive behavior to try and get back at the dad. Two, maybe there is some reason why the mom does not want the children to be around the father. Possibly something to do with the fathers behavior. This is a situational question.

Answer 6

I had the opposite problem. I wanted my daughter's father to be a part of her life, and to have a good relationship with her. He couldn't be bothered except for every 2-3 years when his family would guilt him into seeing her.

I went so far as to buy her the gifts he'd promise for her birthday or Christmas, and put his name on them. He never made a promise he would keep, and I didn't want her disappointed.

So, while there are some women like you describe, there are also women who don't play those games, and men who have no interest in being part of their children's lives.

Answer 7

It is all about control over the other person by denying contact it is the ultimate way of getting back at the father, I know I have been in this situation and I can't remember anything so painful.

6 years after the divorce and things have settled down to the point that I have free access, whenever the children want to come they can, but it has been 6 long years of arguments.

Answer 8

I was a single parent for almost 10 years before I met my husband. My ex moved out of the country, and when he did come back to the UK after 7 years, he made no effort to contact his children. I have never stopped him seeing his kids, although I could have, as he never paid a penny towards their upkeep and was very violent and had a drink problem.
I dont think my children have suffered, as they are both well-manner, polite and they know thy have a mum and step dad that loves them.

So please remember, its not always the mothers fault, sometime the father is to blame.

Answer 9

There are many reasons why a mother would not let the father see his children - some rightly some wrongly. It all depends on the individual circumstances.

My children don't see their dad but they have made that choice themselves (as they are old enough to), but his attitude towards his children when he did have contact was childish, he wasn't making an effort with them so they stopped contact with him.

Answer 10

i don't agree with it whens it done out of malice just for the control or just to hurt them because the man left them. but if its for the good of the children like violence about them or drink/drugs around them then they are quite in thier right. i also think that the father is the type that comes when he wants and doesn't come when he says hes going to continually upsetting & letting the children down then the mother will do it to save the child being hurt in the long run.