I make it very clear that I am an assertive person and do not want to be on my own so I am looking for someone to live with. Have noticed some men (in their 50s) want to drive 3-4hrs to come and see me, book a room in a htl and have sex. Is it what they are looking for or are they trying to impress me, or trying to see if there is chemistry? Do they really have to go thru 4 hrs drive just to have sex?
2007-02-28 21:32:55 · 21 answers · asked by ladysorrow 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You would be amazed at what some men will do just t have sex. Some could be married men looking for some side action and get it far from home to lessen the chance of geting caught. Not every man that tries to have sex on the first date is just looking for sex, but beware, because for every one that isn't there's 5 (maybe more) that are. If they insist on it, then I would assume that's all they are after.
2007-02-28 21:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Steel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The men who drive this distance (3-4hrs) expecting sex on the first date are losers. I would never drive that far on the off shoot hope of shacking with someone. This type of man does have problems as all he wants is a cheap whore or he don't want to be seen in his neighborhood by his friends or relatives with you.
Yes, I would be very suspicious of men who do these strange things but stranger things happen and who can account for a man or women in heat.
2007-03-01 05:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're an idiot for asking this question.
Men in thier 50's either already have a woman in their life, or have had, and they don't want another one, the just want the benefits of them.
They only want sex. They're in their 50's and they don't have much longer to enjoy it. Why are you dating men in their 50's anyway?
Anywho, no matter what your age, you should never have sex until at the very least, the 3rd date, and you feel comfortable. And never have sex with someone who's pushing you to do it, that just shows that it's all they care about, and you don't want to give it out and never see someone again.
Everytime you have sex with someone, you give a little peice of yourself to them.
2007-03-01 05:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd drive 4hrs just to have sex, but if you have to ask, I'm guesting is not worth it. You should leave the worrying to us. As for sex in the first date I've done it a few times, and it's just that. non have turn into relations
2007-03-01 05:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more to offer as a person than just sex. Love yourself first, easy sex is all over these days, if you want a lasting relationship the man has to respect and love you for more than physical attraction. You need to choose wisely so you won't get hurt. Good luck
2007-03-01 05:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are only after sex, but I think you should hold back on sme things. Don't tell them you are looking for someone to live with, say you are looking for a long term relationship. You will get some men who will still just be looking for sex.
They should be treating you, taking you on dates, and then sex comes when you are both ready.
2007-03-01 05:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading your question has left me baffled, I was unable to tell if you were renting a room or your body.
I cannot understand why any man world drive for 3-4 hours just for sex, however desperation springs to mind.
In all honesty we are not all bad, if I take a lady out for the evening and it is our first time together I do not expect sex and if she were to offer I would be quite dissapointed as I would see her as being easy. I look for strong minded woman rather than an easy lay.
2007-03-01 05:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Johny0555 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say it's about 50%. Just because a guy wants to do it the first time doesn't necessarily mean he is only looking for s=e=x. Sometimes we humans can control ourselves and it's natural. I have had s=e=x the first time with most of the women I've dated.
2007-03-01 05:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by AL IS ON VACATION AND HAS NO PIC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men will go to great lenghts to have sex, but dont think that going to happen all th time. I understand that you dont want to be on your own but give yourself some respect and watch who (and what they have STD wise) you sleep with. It is not the same as it was in the 70's and free love. You do end up paying for it some day.
2007-03-01 05:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by Hello!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man, no matter the age, that is looking for sex on the first date, is a sleeze. He should want to get to know you and even if sex is on his mind he should at least want to get to know the type of person he is going to have sex with if he is worth anything. Men who are desperate for sex will go to great lengths for it. Good luck in your search.
2007-03-01 05:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by adropdeaddream 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋