I was 13 and he was 14 (happened about a year ago). We knew each other for quite awhile and were pretty much best friends. Me and him were at the park one day when we decided to walk off the path and trail into the woods a bit. After about two hours of walking around we stopped to rest which he started to suggest we do some "stuff" since we were alone. I didn't want to but then out of nowhere he pinned me to the ground and started to undress me (only managed to get my shirt off). I fought but despite the fact he wasn't much bigger than me he was really strong and couldn't move. He molested me for 20 some long minutes before stopping (and only because our ride had called to ask where we were) He feels terrible about it and has tried to make up so many times but I'm so upset I can't forgive and forget...I hate him but I don't at the same time. I'm so upset and confused, help!
2007-02-28 21:01:23 · 6 answers · asked by April 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you all for your answers. To the person who said "words are cheap": Yes, I agree with that but action aren't. We've seen each other about 4 times a week, every week, for a year since the incident (It's been really hard but we have too much of the same things going on the avoid each other) and he has had a lot of opportunities since then do you do more thing to me but he hasn't so i think he's changed but I still can't get over it. To the person who said "be gentle with him": I guess you're right...especially since he was gentle with me during the incident...powerful so I couldn't move but gentle...physically he didn't me at all.
2007-03-01 07:10:30 · update #1
Yes he should feel terrible. I'm sorry that he did that to you. It was wrong. It is not possible to forget yet, but you must forgive him. That doesn't mean letting him off the hook. If he is not in control of himself, someone else may end up in your place. There are other ways for him to get the release his hormones are demanding. Please believe me I understand that at that age, there are things raging in your body you have no idea how to deal with. Feeling something and thinking something and doing something are not all the same thing.
If he was your best friend, tell him the truth of things and explain that trust is earned. He knows he lost something he can never have again, so be gentle and kind.
2007-02-28 21:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ann S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just the thought of that makes me feel sick and disgusted I honestly feel SO sorry of you.
If I was you I would have no idea what to do but TRY and forget, forgiving may be hard because what he did was Way beyond WRONG, and what he did is something that only a guy who ISN'T a REAL friend would do.
guys CAN control they re urges to do "stuff" and he should have controlled himself, If I was you I wouldn't EVER be alone with him EVER EVER again what he did was cruel/mean/ and horrifying.
even tho it was a year ago doesn't change the fact that it was WRONG and if he did it once who knows if he will do it again.
unless you want him to strike again STAY AWAY FROM HIM even if he says he is sorry TALK IS CHEEP.
I feel your pain trust me, you probably wont ever forget, it will be VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY hard to forgive but in time you'll find the power to do both I hope=]
I wish you the best of luck and remember DON'T TRUST GUY'S that do thing's like that I hope you told your parents or some one who can do something about it because that can change your life forever and it can effect you in horrible ways as well.
2007-03-01 05:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by *B.S.S.F.P* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guy's get really really horny, not saying its right but there was nothing going to get in his way. Especially at age 14. Just stay away from him. I used to come close to something like this but i knew the consiquences so i didn't. I can just emagine how horny i was at that age and suprised i didn't.
2007-03-01 05:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah that sucks, you must feel awkward and angry! I suggest you stay away from him cause he's obviously a lunatic. You were molested sweetie, a girl has her pride!! If you really feel disturbed by it, you should slap his face hard and tell someone cause what kind of best friend molests! His desire for sex just sprinted on you for 20 MINTUES.... god stay AWAY from him!!
2007-03-01 05:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Pencintaabee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats so wrong.
i would just stay away from him. there's no excuse, no matter how horny he was. and even worse was that he was like your best friend! he could've raped you!
2007-03-01 05:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
argh! i'm glad i'm not you
trickyy
2007-03-01 07:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by clever creatures 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋