Well i am 24 year of old and in few months after i wiil marry a girl, who truly love me, she `s choosen by my parrents but really, she is a nice girl and i also respect her and she too.
but i have an affair in past with an girl but every thing is endup now , but my mind is totally hang to decide can i tell her about my past or not , i afraid she might be upset to hear about that , but if i can`t tell her than fell burden on my soul becoz she what she think about me and might be her her behaviour would be changed after to know about that .
than sugges me what can i do?
2007-02-28 20:59:01 · 10 answers · asked by ttttttttt_10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her the truth. If you share this with her she will feel closer to you because of it. Don't say "Well there was this girl that I loved more than I will ever love you" But explain to her that you had this relationship in the past and you look forward to having that same kind of relationship on a much deeper level with her. Otherwise you may end up feeling like your hiding something from her and sooner or later she will start to feel that too.
2007-02-28 21:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the expression "let sleeping dogs lay" comes to mind, if the affair happened before you met this present one, it did not affect her and if you have been sincere and faithful to her, your "tell all" will serve no purpose except to give the new one something to worry or think about. The past is over and gone. Start a new life.
2007-02-28 21:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain to her the past is the past and the reason you ended it was because you are satisfied with what you have now. She is the woman of your dreams and you love her. Tell her you were once unsure of what you wanted now you are sure of what you want and she is what you want. Tell her you don't want anything to change behind this ordeal. You love her and hopes she still loves you. Of course this will change her trust but you will need to build your trust with her back after you explain this to her. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-02-28 21:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by BitterSweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where you with her when you had an affair with another girl?your question is a bit hard to follow.if shes not involved in your past its really not her business.but you seem to have a moral dilemma here and for your own peace of mind maybe you should tell her.
2007-02-28 21:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest not to tell her everything, particularly the things that may harm your relationship and does not has anything to do with your present life.
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2007-02-28 21:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Waleed M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i do no longer think of she realizes that your bro tells your mom. Ask her to no longer tell him, then have confidence her with minor subject concerns and spot if mom hears approximately it. If no longer, then she is worth of your have confidence. you may desire to a minimum of supply her a 2d hazard, she is your sister.
2016-09-30 01:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know which country you are from?....cause if you are from western country...then its up to you whether to tell your wife/gf about your past or not...? their culture is diff. from the other side of the world (asia)...so if you are from asia...then pls. not to tell anything from your past to your wife/gf...like you.... she may not accept all those things...and it may be a shock for her...and if she cannt forget these,it could spoil your married life...and REMEMBER...not to ask her also ( the past of her life...it may give you a shock...or if you ask her of her past ...that means you are giving her the chance to ask you about your past.) forget everything as PAST IS PAST. try to enjoy your life.
2007-02-28 21:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous grounds.
Get to know your would be wife well first. Then decide. What you need to see is if she'll be "little hurt" and "very hurt"
If she'd be little hurt then tell, if not then skip
2007-02-28 21:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sean 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi hunny this is your choice to tell her no one can tell you what to do. Listen to your heart and follow it. Coz it will show you the right path to go on.
2007-02-28 21:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
dont tell u had an affair. just accept that you made a mistake an dont do it again.
2007-02-28 21:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋