Well me and my girl of 4 years have been discussing marriage.. the other night she said she "conned" me into getting her to almost marrying her... i told her that i wanted to, once i got my career established.. i told her i cannot wait to get married and that we would be engaged sometime this year. she said she'd re-thought about it and "doesn't know" because she doesn't wanna "make me do anything i don't want to" So I asked her, if I did propose, would you say no? And she said, "No, why would I say no?"
Anyone know if she wants to or not?
2007-02-28 20:45:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One days she wants to.. the next day she's unsure because there's a lot going on... what the heck
2007-02-28 20:45:39 · update #1
three out of the five questions you've asked yahoo answers have been about cheating... which means you think your gf's cheating on you sooooo dont marry her!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-28 20:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I can relate fairly well to this...
When we first had thoughts of marriage after being together for about 4yrs, we discussed it very openly. I felt it was right and the timing seemed good so I started the marriage talk. We finally decided together that it was what we both wanted. But I couldn't help but feel like I had talked him into it or persuaded him by me being the one to have thought it first and telling him it was about time for it. I wanted to know he was serious enough to really commit to us.
My guess is that she doesn't want you or herself to feel pressured into anything. I think you both are sure you want to be together but know that you both will need time to think this through. Make sure you look at the "bad" things along with the good. I suggest you read some different wedding vows, really take it word for word and if you decide you want to live by those vows let her know you do. And tell her that if she feels she needs more time for herself to be certain, that you're willing to give her that time. Tell her you want her to make her own decision as you have made your own. If possible show her how much you care for her.
Good Luck! Hope it all works out well for the both of you.
2007-03-01 06:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being preemptively engaged. What I mean by that is that you both have the idea that you want to be married but your not setting dates or hiring caterers yet. You can stay that way for years if you want. You'll both know when the time is right.
2007-03-01 04:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has some doubts about getting married
but it sounds like what she wants is for YOU to want it. You can't ask an "if" question - If I asked you, what would you say? No - most women will react badly to that, suggests a lack of commitment.
If you really want to, and let her know that - I suspect she will say yes.
2007-03-01 04:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find out what else is going on with her life that is causing her to feel this way.she may want to make sure u really want to do this, so u won't regret it later.
2007-03-01 09:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to, the question is.....Do YOU want to?
2007-03-01 05:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Steel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋