something i must get worked up abt?? My hubby who was my boy friend told me years back that he went to a strip club in Australia where some guys were drinking beers which were poured on the gal's br*a*t & flowing down the guy's mouth.. Then i asked him.. if he was involed in it.. There he said, "NO" Never!!.. i jst dropped that matter.
But now,after years later i feel he might have been actuali involved in that behaviour... I have asked him before if only i was the one who he slept with..and he goes, "yes of course"... But now, i kind-of not beliveing him...
Why are these thoughts coming 2 me now??
I have not spoken to him abt my feelings yet but i know that i should..
Wat is the matter with me?? why??
2007-02-28 20:41:25 · 9 answers · asked by sUnseT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The past is the past and nothing good can be brought into your present or future from bringing it up now. Would you want him bringing up anything that you had done that could have been questionable from years ago? Don't create drama where there is none. Let it go, it's the past and the past is dead. If you look ahead to your future you won't have time to look back.
2007-02-28 21:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Steel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who really cares if your hubby or boyfriend goes to a strip bar. He comes home to you don't he?
That kind of thing never bothered me. The only thing that I ever ask of him is that if he goes there is no reason why I can't go to a male strip club either.
2007-03-01 00:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by snugglesrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, you should discuss your feelings with him.
Could it be jealousy your feeling ? I only ask this because I know in the past in certain situations I have felt jealousy (mind you i will never admit that).
I feel jealous because in situations like that these 'girls' are a mans dream, they are someone you cant be, they turn your man on in ways you couldnt do.
I wouldnt get to worked up over the situation unless of course he has lied.Even then though it is the past.
Definately discuss your feelings with him in a relaxed environment. I know that men can get pretty defensive in these situations.
2007-02-28 20:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by samchic86 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like strip clubs. It's all about money. A stripper goes from one guy to the next, bending over, then turns around to accept money. I don't find that sexy.
I just read the rest of your question. You gotta forgive a guy for having fun a long time ago.
2007-02-28 20:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
For some reason you are having feelings of doubt in your relationship...But even if he was with a girl before you or drank this beer in this manner, this was all done before you, right? If you keep harping on it, you are going to nag him right away from you...Trust in a relationship has to be #1...why are you doubting him now? Until you have reason to, I would let it alone....
2007-02-28 20:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are looking for a reason to get out of this marriage, and the best you can come up with is some lame incident from years ago. You need professional counseling, not Y!A.
2007-02-28 20:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are obviously bored and need something to do when is the last time you made your husband happy? i mean really made him happy i say get busy with what you should be doing and not waste life over the past.
2007-02-28 21:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your looking for a way out of the relationship....
2007-02-28 20:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
big deal? that's nothing. it was in the past right?
2007-02-28 20:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by dancingdilemma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋