If I were ur friend!!?

Question

I am v witty, jovial and who makes my friends always smile n laugh. some1 who is always there to help friends.
No matter how difficult is a task for me but if it helps to my friends, I try my best to do it.
I always try to be of some help to my friends.
No matter how busy is my friend but when ever she finds time for me and give me a call, I always rush to help her or talk to her.
I am some1 always available for my friend. No matter how much busy I am.
I always want to c my friends smiling and want to be a reason for their smiles. I most act like a joker. Only thing I demand is their time which I often dont get and I end up feeling use n throw kind.
If I were ur friend, how would u have treated me? what would u have think of me? what do u think I should do to get rid off that use n throw feeling? What do u think abt me?

Answer 1

Seems to me like you're making it too easy for your "friends" to take advantage of you. You've now created a relationship where you give and they needn't give anything back. Of course that suits them. And as long as you're OK with it and don't complain, they will continue to do so. State your needs to them for a change! Next time you have a problem and could do with some help, ask them directly to drop everything they're doing and come to your rescue. If they don't or are hesitant, don't get angry but tell them what you feel you're doing to help them and whether they see any incongruousness?
By the way, if you were my friend, I'd fight to the death for you; friends like you don't come around very often and your friends, if they have half a brain in their heads, would do well to pat themselves on the back to have someone like you in their lives.

Answer 2

Could you be a bit clearer? I dont get what you mean by the "use n throw feeling", is that what you think of other people or what you think other people do to you?

If I was to be honest, it sounds a little from what you have said, that you are a bit of an attention seeker, but you seem decent enough. If you are what you have written, then yeah, your heart is in the right place.

Also, some people can be nice as anything but REALLY annoying, especially if they are in your face and demanding and whatnot.

But, you are obviously asking this question for a reason, why dont you explain more and give greater context? That way you can get more detailed answers

Answer 3

You sound like a lovely person. If you were my friend Id ring you most days and text you most days. I probably couldnt do this everyday due to money. But it doesnt cost a penny to walk to your friends house and go see them. If you are worried you dont see your friends often arrange to do something with them. I only see my friends about once a week 2 - 3 times If im lucky. If you friends are good friends have a talk with them to see if you can see them more. Be careful how you word it as you dont want to upset them. Say something like your a really good friend I wish we could spend a bit more time together.
Good luck

Answer 4

This situation sounds similar to one of my friends. She is hilarious and always gets me laughing, but when I'm upset or worried about something she would never be my first choice of who to talk to. She is normally hyper active too which makes me a bit annoyed because I like to relax and take things easy...but shes always laughing and taking excitedly (which don't get me wrong is great...but not always). Think about what your friends think of you of. You don't have to be just the fun person try to be the sensible, relaxed friend too.
Hope that helps a little : )

Answer 5

if you were my friend, i would be there for you the way you were for me and i would always find time to see you, if your friends aren't seeing you only when they need advice tehn maybe they aren't really you friends. i have a friend who is the same if she needs someone to talk to or her other friends sren't around she will call me and ask if i want to go over ... and i used to go but now i don't, because i'm sick of her trying to use me when she has no-one else. talk to your friends and tell them that you would like to see them more and if thay don't agree to this teh they aren't real friends and you should go and out and meet new people. i think you sound like a brilliant friend and i feel that your your friends should respect you more and take the time to see. i hope you sort this out good luck. x

Answer 6

you sound like a true friend, but also a bit too altruistic, you need to think of your own needs 2, if you were my friend, i would treat you with the repect you deserve, and would try to do the same things in return, it sounds like youve been used, and taken advantage of, they arent worth your effort or hurt feelings, youd be better off finding new friends, remember, friendship is a 2 way thing, think more of your own needs 2 in future, and balance this out with helping others

Answer 7

You sound like a really good person but we dont always get thanks for our kindness and get taken for granted. Your friends probably have no idea how you feel so tell them, if they dont start appreciating you then find some new friends. I'd love to have you as a friend so stop being so hard on yourself. x

Answer 8

I think you would make me a good friend. You try to make people laugh. You try to help them. If we were friends, I would want to spend time with you, and try to help with your problems. If we were friends! I also think you want people to like you. As do we all! Just be yourself and I think people will like you. Good luck!

Answer 9

hello, you sound sweet and nice.. try to make be a little 'un-available' when they ask, unless its a emergency, say: ''i would love to, but i am really busy right now'' play it 'cool' and they will come to you more.. good luck... you are a kind thoughtfull person.. fancy a date? LOL X

Answer 10

lols i also in the same situaton as u....i dont really have a best friend and like to joke around....just try to get a good firend that is true to u