unfaithful husband?

Question

My daughter is very stressed at the moment because just before christmas her husband went of with another woman.leaving her 4months pregnant with 2 other children of her own.He was away a week then came back begging for another chance.she `s took him back but at the moment is still struggling with how he was prepared to leave her.She wants to know if you can get over this-she is trying but needs advise from people who have been in the same situation

Answer 1

give him some chance.
in between ask your daughter to be financially secured. demand maximum plans for future of the child, control his money ,ask you daughter to become strong ,then if the situation is still beyond control, take a tough task with him.
Regarding leaving him decide as per your background & community culture

Answer 2

I havewn't been in this situation but I am of the opinion that people cheat for a reason. If your daughter wants to save her marriage then she needs to talk with her husband about why he did what he did. Although it may seem to many people unforgivable that he did this whilst your daughter was pregnant it may that the pregnancy was the straw that broke the camel's back. It may have brought into sharp focus problems within the marriage and he ran scared. If everything is good at home people don't cheat. Maybe he was frightened, feeling neglected, threatened, feeling unloved, feeling left out etc etc etc. Can your daughter put hand on heart and say that all was OK untl he went and that she is absolutely blameless?

Answer 3

I'm sorry that happend to your daughter, but what made him change his mind and decide to come back? Did the gf leave him or kick him out? If so, what happens if the gf wants to come back? If he was preparing to leave her the first time, 4 months pregnant and with 2 other children then he does not deserve her. Im most cases once they cheat they will do it again. If he is actually sorry and shows signs that he is willing to change then I guess it would be ok to give him another chance but if not then I think she should get rid of him and find someone that really does love her. Although I know it would be hard to be a single mom but I think it would better than staying with a guy that doesn't care. I hope everything works out. Take care.

Answer 4

I have been in similar situation but he never actually left me if he had have done i honestly believe i wouldn't have had him back sorry. For all your daughter knows bless her the other woman could have dumped him or when they were living together he might have decided the grass wasn't greener after all? Try to advise your daughter if she wants to make a go of it seriously get counselling with him and make a few changes that he absolutely has to abide by i wish her all the best in her future :)

Answer 5

His girlfriend kicked him out huh? I would say your daughter should make plans of her own. She'll need something to fall back on if and when he tries this again. Being on the recieving end myself I know how much it hurts. It's been 5 yrs I and still have feelings about that. I'm just now getting around to completely trusting her again. So it takes a long time and a sincere effort by him to prove that he's worth trusting again.

Answer 6

Hi there. I've never been in this situation b4 but i really wanted to have my say. Do you think your daughter shud stay with his man. If he did it once (when your daughter was pregnant) there's high chances he will do it again. U must step in. Talk to him. Put sense to his empty head and since its your daughter future and life, threaten him if possible. But then most men in this situation will agree with anyone just to get out of the problem. So i think bring your daughter home

Answer 7

The husband should be dragged to the streets and executed Mob Style. A SOB who leaves his pregnant wife can quite possibly cause a miscarriage. The stress a man would place on his wife at that point is so cruel that even a momentary lapse in judgement that allowed him to actually "leave his FAMILY" at such a critically important TIME in their lives, well, I think it is unforgiveable. You do NOT leave your pregnant wife and two children for ANYONE.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear this my dear,but its quite difficult to forget although one forgives,you will be thinking that he will do the same thing again but no one can tell except time,time my dear will tell so just concentrate on the young one on the way and let's hope he has really changed for the better. Pray and ask God to take away the hurt so that even if it happens again,it won't affect you this much.
You can surely get over it,it just that it takes time,i don't know how far she's gone in her pregnancy but keeping oneself busy helps to forget,if you sit at one place brooding,sorry,it will not help,keep yourself busy,i mean that. Men and Women,please stop cheating on your spouses,its terrible

Answer 9

the husband has womanized. and your daughter has every right to be distraught and angry.
she should make him feel the consequences of his action. leaving him (for now?) may be a good thing. otherwise, the unfaithful husband will know he can easily manipulate and can even go for a next time.
your support of your daughter is much needed in these times.
see if she has friends she can talk to a marriage counselor.

Answer 10

No she want!!
She will always going to have this on her mind.
She want have trust, and when ever there is an argument this is going to became one of hers ""Trix { in a way }"" . This is going to eat her slowly, and she is not going to be happy in the end.
She is still yang.
He should have been next to her but he wasn't.
You can tell me that everyone makes mistakes.
Yes, that's true.
The problem is what would you do after this to fix it.
What he will do to make you happy, and make you trust him again.
That can take 1,2 3 weeks or even years.
The question is can you let it go, and forgive him?