He gets upset on little things every now and then. Sometimes I don't even know as to what made him upset. He just stops talking for days. We got married a month ago and this is 6th time that he is upset. I have tried several times to talk and clear the misunderstandings but all in vein. I am currently at my parent's place. I called him so many times but he disconnects my call everytime and sometimes switches off his cell.
2007-02-28 20:01:45 · 24 answers · asked by Soni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a joke right?
if its not
then your marriage is a joke.
2007-02-28 20:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by looby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You left the house and ran to your parents??????
Way to go girl. Way to show how dedicated you are to the relationship. Great way to show him that he made the right decision by marrying you.
Most men do get irritated on stupid s**t. That's just them. If he says something that you are taking as him getting upset, ask him why he's upset? Guarentee he won't have a very good answer. Men are moody sometimes, everybody is. Let him know there's no reason to get pissed off over something so little, and then let it go. After a little while, he'll figure out what you just told him, on his own.
You're sending him the message that in tough times, you'll run away. Not the way to start the marriage. Go home and work it out. If he isn't ready to talk, give him some space to think things out before he says anything, don't nag him about what is bothering him.
2007-03-01 08:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by jlonva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMM?
Since you are newlyweds why aren't you guys still ripping each others clothes off rather then fighting it seems something is
upsetting him maybe its the lack of intimacy or something deeper
maybe he wasn't ready for marriage and wants to end it?
I think you need to move back ASAP you should never bring family into disputes work through this situation the two of you
get some counselling if he is willing to participate.
I'm sorry but when my wife and I got married all we did was
screw around for the first year. Most everything can be worked on. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-03-01 04:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal ups and downs are part of life. The delicate point is that you both are just married and may have had very little time to get to know each other. Instead of calling him up as it disturbs him, can you meet him personally and talk with him?
A bit more of understanding from both the parties and a bit more of patience may set right this situation. Don't give up. Take courage.
2007-03-01 04:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Tere - educator & professor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are YOU at your moms house? Do you run to your moms every-time you two get into a disagreement? Than you expect your new hubby to call and beg for you to come home? No matter who's fault it is, you or him, do not run any where! GROW UP!!! How do you expect to make a "marriage" go if your running somewhere and not staying together and facing each other? If he is hitting you, yes leave than-for good! If not, get home and honor your marriage vows! I wouldn't call you either, he is a fool too, Don't you love your husband? Must not, if your acting this way!! You two need to learn to fight fair, learn to communicate first!!!
2007-03-01 04:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him "simmer" awhile but be the first to talk to him. Ask him about his work when he gets back from the office, make his favourite dish or take him out to his favourite restaurant and just chill there. Try not to pressure him into talking but let him know that you still care for him and no matter what, you are always at his side. Be nice to him. Understand his feelings and thoughts. Good luck.
2007-03-01 04:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! what a marriage...i am sorry your feeling badly like this in your marriage..your little information brings back my bad marrige into my mind..for my experience and advice,get a divorce soon..never mind the shame of getting married and divorcing very fast..you will get really hurt in both ways on physically and mentally..your husband doesnt want to resolve the problem with YOU..plus,he disconnects the phone on you..hmmm,ok hear is my second advice..try one more time face to face in a public area where he wont harm you at all...like,at a park during the daytime..if,he ignores you at all avenues of resolving the problem thats making he him upset so much..just divorce him..cause,he wont listen to you..remember,a marriage takes two to do the tango>>>not 1person......plus,stay calm towards him..dont get your tone of voice loud..he can get upset easily and nothing will improve of resolving anything..ok good luck miss :)
2007-03-01 04:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by virgo7134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be firm with him, you have to say you two need to communicate or else this situation is going to be all about his control. He is getting off on controlling the situation and I cannot see this getting better, this is so early in your relationship. This is what they call the honeymoon stage and hes already a jerk. I would say Annulment, or divorce would be my suggestion truly. It will only get worse.
2007-03-01 06:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 1 month ,6 times upset?? Just ignore him.He is trying to make an impact on you that you take to his whims and fancies.JUST IGNORE HIM.Dont give any explanations.
2007-03-01 04:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go back home, be there for when he's ready to talk, and not take it so hard. Obviously this is how he deals with his anger. When he calms down and is talking to you again, you should explain to him that he needs to communicate with you or you're going to spend the rest of your lives not talking to each other, and that's just not going to work.
2007-03-01 04:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two suggestions: One, get an annulment if you still can. Two, be grateful that he isn't talking to you under the circumstances. I don't know of any successful cures for a really bad marriage. Good luck to you.
2007-03-01 04:06:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋