Is it so hard to have just one sex partner when you're married - your spouse? Does it always come to some point when you have to cheat or something like that? People say they need something new from time to time, but the person next to you can always try to make you feel different sensations by experimenting.. so... what do you think?
2007-02-28 19:57:50 · 13 answers · asked by Martin M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey hey just to let you know. I'm not referring to me. I was talking in general, because there are so much f***n cheaters and stuff I begin to wonder why they do that when they say I love you. It doesn't make sense. I agree with you on true love, because I believe in it. Some people can't find it...
2007-02-28 20:09:33 · update #1
I'm sure for some it is easy to get bored but that still doesn't give anyone the excuse to cheat. I feel ya. When you say that you love someone, it is suppose to be real not playing with someone emotions. To keep things fired up with your spouse, you have to keep s** exciting. It can't be the same all the time. And one thing my husband and I do is flirt with each other like we did when we were just dating. I can be in the kitchen cookin and he would make some kind of remark and pop me on the butt. (Such as what's your name hot mama) (LOL!!!!=0) "I saw you from across the room so I thought I could come up to ya to get your digits" I would come back by sayin, I got a man!!!! hehehehe I"m gettin tickle just talkin about it.
But just lil stuff like that bring excitement to a marriage. Of course, a marriage will get boring if you don't put forth the effort to spice it up. It is not just up to the wife or the husband all the time but it is up to both. When the bride and groom said I do, they became one and as one, you have to work at it together.
You really had a great question and hopefully more people will look at the overall picture just like you do. B/c in my opinion alot of people take marriage as a joke. It is not a joke, it is something special and hopefully forever. I don't want to get married again. I"m happy with my husband!!!
2007-03-01 03:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn`t cheat or seek away from my partner ,I made a promise in front of God .Singed seasealed and delivered legally.I`ve been with him for Seventeen years and would never do such a thing to my bestfreind.
Anyway if I wanted something different I`d just speak up,tactfully so not to scare or make my partner fill put out or off by my suggestions.
2007-02-28 20:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by nighneev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking this question you are obviously not in love with your spouse. Being "In love" and is loving someone unconditionally. When you feel this way for someone, your heart and soul are consumed with love and passion for this person, that you won't ever think of looking or lusting for anyone else. Once you start seeking another partner to experiment with your no longer in love and you should respect your spouse and be honest with your feelings and tell her she no longer does it for you sexually.
2007-02-28 20:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by NYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that boredom is what causes it with women. We need that emotional connection with whoever we are with. If our spouse doesn't provide that, well then we may seek it elsewhere. It isn't a matter of experimenting or looking for something new from time to time. We need to know we are loved , appreciated and still found desireable by our mate. Hope this answers your question.
2007-02-28 23:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male, 57, married 36 yrs.
No, I've never felt like I "needed" to cheat on my wife for two very good reasons:
- she's just as sexual as I am and enjoys all aspects of sexual pleasure, and loves to experiment.
- we're committed to each other, and would discuss any sexually-related problem that would even lead to such a thing.
- there's such a thing as honesty
2007-02-28 23:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're truly in love with your spouse, there is noone else in the world...noone...you never tire of her...communication is the key...and always tell the truth about your wants and needs and LISTEN to hers...
2007-02-28 20:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not hard to be loyal. It builds from love not lust. Lust is that sensation of variation. Love is something far greater. If you are questioning it then you probably haven't truly found or experienced love.
Sorry, keep trying.
2007-02-28 20:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love multiple sex partners. Trouble is, my wife is the best as far as I'm concerned, so there's no reason for another.
2007-02-28 21:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a wife gemini - than you will have like minimum 4 in one.Never boaring
2007-02-28 20:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by inna a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask that question, you have no one to love!
When you love someone, then you will know the answer!
2007-02-28 20:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋