My recent ex-fiancee, would call a co-worker several times a day even when he was off and at home with me. He claimed they were business calls and he had to take even when they were incoming from her. I assumed it really was business since he was a GM at the job was constantly dealing with the owner and other managers. Our living situation was miserble and regretful, but he always came home to me. He never communicated his inner feelings about our relationship to me. This new year he secretly found and apartment and decided to tell me three days before leaving. I was internally relieved and shocked when told me and suspious of him during the last three months of 2006. Since, he was anxious to move he found an apartment right in the next building. He wanted to be friends and I wanted to put our lousy years behind me. Two weeks after he left I saw the cell phone bill and all the calls he made to one number. He thinks talking to someone for two and half months, isn't cheating.
2007-02-28 19:56:50 · 5 answers · asked by NYC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget about this question. Just be happy that you're out of this relationship that could have turned out for the worse if you had gotten married. One thing for sure, talking to another female that long isn't appropriate for someone who is getting married to someone else. He should be talking like that to you!
2007-03-04 18:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by forlanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point it truly doesn't really matter, does it? What is done is in the past? Apparently he needed this friend for a security blanket to make it through the hard times. It must of been a hard decision for him to make about your relationship. You seem OK with the decision he did make, so I would just let well enough go. If I were you I wouldn't waste anymore energy on the past, and think positive about the future.
2007-03-01 04:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears he was probably doing more then talking on the phone
it is sad that you lost your fiancee but maybe it is for the best if he was doing this crap behind your back you deserve better.
Wishing you all the best in finding a decent faithful man and not another boy.
2007-03-01 04:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The talking in and of itself is not cheating, however it sure looks bad especially in your situation. If a partner insists on talking to somebody that much and says it's business, have him or her deal with the call within your hearing distance.
2007-03-01 04:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe it is. I don't believe looking who did what and who is more responsible is the answer, just move on and accept things as they are, might hurt now but it will really hurt in the end if you don't let go to whatever you had. Besides you can find someone better.
2007-03-01 04:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by metmichallica1357 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋