FRIENDS especially LADIES...How to Restore your self confidence??

Question

I've this cousin who has been through a lot in her life & mostly emotional pain and abuse. She has been through some painful relationships as well.She is good looking, kind, intelligent and a very caring person.She is self reliant and has always thought herself to be a very self confident woman but now somebody told her she might have some real self confidence problem. And when she looks back at her life she sincerely feels she definitely might've some major self confidence issue and probably it's just that she has never been aware of this until now & therefore she never acknowledge it either. now since I know everything about her & what she been through in life I feel it might be true. Now what should she do to restore her self confidence back??how should she pull the pieces of her life together?? I know she really needs help and some emotional boost which is crucial for all of us at som point in life and especially for her now as a woman.

I sincerely value your suggestions.Thanks

Answer 1

Oh dear. There really is noo easy way to do this i am afraid. This could take years to be quite honest with you. I mean it varies from person to person and everyone is different. Not the same thing will work for everyone and i am not sure what she has gone through. I suppose if what she had gone through was similar to what someone else had gone through and that person did something that worked for them it might work for her too? Get what i am saying?

for myself it took self help books. it took some therapy. it took being alone for a time. it took a great deal of strength..inner strength. it took me believing in me NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAID...i mean really just telling everyone around me to STFU and truly learning to love myself. on my yahoo 360 i have some steps to loving oneself if she would be interested in taking a look at that...i mean that would be a great step in the right direction for her I THINK anyways and definitely worth checking out...or you could at least copy and paste for her.

I have a great book i could recommend as well that has a chapter in it about love....but you see she has to be WILLING TO WORK!! WILLING TO GO THROUGH THE SAME HELL she once went through that hurt her............only this hell is to heal her..........you see what i mean??? the hell she was in before always had a light far away and she is in that light now....that light is opportunity and freedom to take action..power to change....CHOICE that she didn't have in her past..that she has now.........is it easy? nope....but is it worth it YES!

So yes...boost her in the fact that THERE IS HOPE AND SO MUCH POWER AND LOVE THAT AWAITS HER!! And when she takes that first step...believe me she will feel a huge huge relief right off the bat! It is later that she will feel the work....but who cares it's so much better than what she has been through!

Answer 2

Treat tomorrow are another new chapter to your life. Forget about yesterday and all the past events that happened.

Focus on your work/school and be involved in activities like sports, swimming or hobbies which may interest you.

Always think positive. Do not ponder on past events rather think of what you can do and make yourself happy by treating yourself with a new hairdo, a few new clothes, and maybe new friends.

Try to widen your social circle. Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell her to sit down and work with herself. Don't work with herself with other people because self confidence simply says it for itself... "SELF". She doesn't need to rely on the person who was with her as she bettered herself but then she will know herself. It will be another major self confident situation if somethin' happened to the person workin' w/ her. She needs to work with "The Secret" you can buy it on video but it is basically the law of attraction. I know this may not sound like it has anything to do with the matter but it does, because she can not change the past but she can better her present and enjoy her future. Think postive act positive and speak positive about everything because if she just does that all her troubles won't be troubles and her thoughts about ONCE being self confident will change. She needs to think about life being about her, not to sound conceited or stuck on herself, but that's how she will need to do it. Just do things for her and for her own well being. But reinforce in her mind and verbally to those who say she is conceited..."I'm not conceited. I'm just confident."

Answer 4

she needs love, make sure she is surrounded by people that love her and care about her.
take her shopping to buy some really cute clothes if she feels pretty on the inside by knowing people love her and feels beautiful on the out side she will hopefully feel better.
tell her thing's you and other people like about her, compliment her in any ways possible.
help her avoid people and things that make her unhappy and unconfined.
I hope you can help her restore herself and make her feel like a million bucks =].

Answer 5

Therapy.

Answer 6

by mind control