Why aren't men romantics at heart?

Question

They never listen,They always forget certain dates

Answer 1

At heart, men are also highly romantic.
However, they do not openly display their emotions the way women do.
And again, I think they have too many things on their mind..... which is why they tend to forget certain dates!!

Answer 2

I can't speak for all men, but usually if a man isn't listening, it's because you won't shut up. Men don't feel the need to communicate all the time. They communicate what needs said, and that enough said. As for dates, well theres no sense in forgetting an important date. You have to be realistic though. You can't expect a man to remember every date from your wedding anniversary to the first time you held hands. That's just crazy. And some dates void others. If you celebrate your wedding anniversary, then you don't celebrate your first date anniversary. Man brain only has so much room, and most of that is reserved for thinking about sex, so limit your expectations to major dates. Besides that, just show interest in him and he'll show interest in you. Inspire the guy a little. I am a firm believer that if you want something then give something. People that say the spark is gone just need slapped. If you feel it's gone then get up and do something about it. I'm not saying your doing anything wrong, you may be dealing with a dud. But give my answer some thought.

Answer 3

Man what a loaded unfair question. That's like a guy asking, "Why can't women stay slender? They could if they really wanted to."

Many men are romantic. Pehaps not as sappy as all the Lifetime Movies for Women you watch, but plenty of guys are romantic

Here are some of the things I've done over the years and still do -

hand-make her cards - not on a computer - but by hand.
make her custom flower arrangements myself.
put up strings of lights, candles, make custom CDs.
remember all important dates.
know her shoe, dress, and lingerie sizes by heart.
secret notes for no reason tucked everywhere.
jewelry for fun.
little baskets of care packages - tea, cookies, mug, etc for work.
have flowers delivered to her workplace/bring them by myself when i can.
set up a web site that delivers her a romantic e-mail i wrote every day i am out of town on business.
write my own sonnets to her - had to learn sonnet form and all that.
tons of backrubs and footrubs and fingers in her hair with no sexual innuendo involved.
snuggle movie night - again no sex, just a movie and cuddling.
surprise dinner out about 3 times a week.
buying opera, ballet, smooth jazz festival tickets without being forced.
whenever she says "oh that's cute" i 'go to the bathroom' and write it down so when her birthday or other date rolls around i have all these 'thoughtful' gifts she mentioned 8 months ago.
do virtually all the laundry, half the dishes, all the vacuuming between when the service comes.


now, honestly, i do it with no thought of what comes back because you can't live life holding your breath waiting for someone to return the thought. but do you know what such treatment has gotten me? 12 years of zero sex. 12 *years*. ZERO sex. think about it. 12*52= 624 weeks.

and you also say men don't listen? TRY TALKING LESS. Your voice becomes a background buzz after a while. DUH! You go on and on and on and on and on and then expect him to remember every tiny detail - can't be done.

One thing you can try is about a week before a 'date' - go - so your birthday is coming up where should we have dinner? or my birthday is coming up - you wanna go to the ballet that night? or our anniversary will be here soon - want to do a 3 day mexico cruise? try that instead of playing this asinine game of "you had better read what's in my mind or man will i be royally p*ssed." men are dense and we need to be told stuff straight out. geezus.

Answer 4

I believe you are very wrong on this one. I am a romantic.
If you say to him that he ALWAYS forgets or that he NEVER listens, that means that you ALWAYS forget when he does something right and you NEVER remember when he does something romantic.
The words "Always and never" are a death sentence to communication.
Good luck
J

Answer 5

some men do listen, and not all men forget special dates.
as for your question, the answer is simple, thats our job! we are the romantics! men just see things differently for the most part......sometimes they surprise us with something sweet they have done, it doesn't happen often so when it does it is really wonderful!
my mother-in-law did a pretty good job with her son! he always remembers my birthdays, our anniversaries, and easter. but he normally fails miserably at valentine's day. this year he brought home flowers.....i almost fell over.
so.........romantic notions are our job much the same as putting out the garbage is his! lol
cheers

Answer 6

Because men need to be taught how to be romantic. I have three boys ages 10-almost 14. I have taught them how to be gentlemen...opening doors, pulling out chairs, holding up jackets so I can get them one, carrying packages. I have and continue to show them what romance is. Whenever we watch a movie or a show and I see something that is romantic..I tell them. I also tell them that girls like simple things...like notes, little tokens that shows you were thinking of them. I call them love tokens. They have taken my advice to heart because each of them every now and then leave me love tokens. They are respectful towards me and their sister. They are more ...so much more then their father ever was/is. I get compliments on their behavior all the time from other adults.

Answer 7

Men are romantic, they do listen, and they remember certain dates.
If you have a boy friend that is not romantic replace him. You deserve respect and romance.

Answer 8

Not all men are like this. I remember my girlfriends birthday, our anniversary, first date and kiss. It really just depends on the person and how special they think the moment is.

I listen when there is something to be heard. When my girlfriend asks for something and I am capable to doing or getting it its hers. She also doesn't give me sublte hints either. She tells me what she wants and to the point. Try that sometime, you might be surprised.

Answer 9

I have been a hopeless romantic my whole life. I don't date women, I romance them. I always mark my calendar regarding special dates and give them special days just because. I make them feel special, loved, pampered, and more than worthy of the time that I give to them.

Answer 10

Could be that you have never met anyone romantic but hang in there. Eventually he will come knocking at your door. Just don't get too defensive when he shocks your socks off.