2007-02-28 18:09:37 · 26 answers · asked by sarasmiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are 2 possible reasons that they won't accept your apology.
The first is that they are not ready to forgive you. That doesn't mean they won't eventually... all it means is they are still too hurt right now to forgive.
The other, and more common reason, is that they did not feel your apology was sincere or heartfelt.
How did you apologize? Did you take full responsibility for the problem with NO excuses of any kind? Did you express your regret? Did you ask for forgiveness? Did you tell them that it would not happen again?
Effective, complete, and heartfelt apologies will almost always work. If you have done that, then there is nothing more that you can do at this point. It is up to them to take the time and think over your apology. Just make sure you gave them a "good" apology... And if you didn't? No problem...
Apologize again for whatever you did following the guidelines of a perfect apology and also apologize for the poor apology you gave the first time.
If this person is important to you then take the time to review what you said and see if it was the apology that is should have been.
Good luck...It will all work out.
2007-03-01 02:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by pachard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried your best and been completely sincere then there is nothing else you can do. But that does not mean you walk away or ignore the person. Now you have to prove through your actions that you meant what you said. And be patient. Just because you apologized does not mean they have to accept it.
If, for example, you cheated on a girlfriend. Your apology does not have to be accepted nor does that person have to take you back. They could accept your apology and move on w/out you. If this is the case then it is incumbent upon you to prove, again through your actions, that your apology was sincere.
Make sense?
2007-02-28 18:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just ask what you just did (offer an apology only to get it rejected) ask if they are sure, then move on. you were big enough to realize you made a mistake, but they have to be big enough to accept the fact that you know you made a mistake and are accepting blame. THIS IS A BIG THING. if they can't accept your apology, regardless how big or small the offense, then there's no reason to extend additional olive branches.
either let the situation boil over with time, and ask how the other party is doing and take it from there, or just leave it up to them as to whether to continue the relationship/friendship
it's a two way street
2007-02-28 18:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by gonzo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set them up so that they do something to you which forces THEM to apologize. That way you come out on top. right? I think? Well when you think about it you end up with problems like this. "Just do it"
No?
Take the harder way out and ask them for the reason for not accepting. If they can't give you one then they are more or less being spiteful. If they truly can't at the moment because they are still weighing it out, or need more time, then do them the courtesy of waiting it out.
But, if this is your third time in a month begging for a brand new apology, then you're good as toast.
2007-02-28 18:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i would attemt one more time to apologize and if they choose to give you the cold shoulder again, just drop it and never try to apologize to the person again. If it is a close friend of you, just go on like normal and eventually yall will get to the point where you can just laugh at it or get a chance to say sorry one more time with that person willing to accpet the apology this time. It all just takes time really. If it was a heated subject for the reason of apology give it time to cool down before attepmting to make things right. Hope this helps. Peace.
2007-02-28 18:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Victor C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you've apologised and that's all you can do. You can't make someone accept your apology so it's now up to them wether they want to move on from it or not. i would suggest though that since you've apologised already, you start moving on first. If they don't accept your apology then that's their choice and they may have lost a good friend over it. As long as you don't have any bad feelings towards them you don;t have anything to worry about and there's nothing else you can do.
2007-02-28 18:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have made a sincere apology and your intended recipient isn't as accepting as you would like, just give the person time and space. It really is the only thing you can DO...
2007-02-28 18:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by msociety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Well it depends on how much they mean to you. And how much you want them in your life....I mean they don't mean nothing to you don't sweat it and move on. But if they mean the world to you tried to apologizes again...and mean what you say. Some people can see right through BS apologizes ...so tell them how much they mean to you. After a couple times if there is still no responce then give him/her space to get over what you done to that person....I know it sucks big big..I just messedbig times with one of my close friends.
Now all i can do is wait !!!!!!!
2007-02-28 18:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, there is nothing you can do but say a little prayer and hope that time will heal the wounds. If you have apologized, what more can you do? I mean honestly there is nothing more to do dear, except for wait and hope for a time...before moving on.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 18:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must've been one helluva mistake then! Usually people will accept an apology, unless it was just too big/awful a thing that was done.
**accept that you screwed up and make amends and move on.
2007-02-28 19:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S ALL GOOD 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋