Some people whom we know keep asking me about our kids & saying that why are you roaming without your kids. I'm doing the best for my kids. They are happy too. But ,my husband & I like to have quality time together as a couple too. These kind of conversations upset me a lot.
2007-02-28 18:05:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me the only way to keep a marriage alive is to keep time just for you two. Your kids are very important and are the light of your lives, but your husband also deserves time with you too! Kids are your life but they cant be your whole life, just because you become a mother doesnt mean you've been put on a restriction for 18 years! Relax, Have Fun, and Enjoy yourself. Parents work to hard not too!
2007-02-28 18:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by chelsmat2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them or tell them to mind their own business.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with married couples going out alone. My husband and I try to do it once a week, minimum once a month.
Think about it. While you love your kids and want to do your best by them, they are only going to be with you approximately 20 years. Then they're going to move out and have their own lives.
You and your spouse need to keep your relationship strong so that when the kids are gone, you don't feel like you're living with a total stranger. That means regular dates! Even if the dates are cheap, one hour affairs that are just time for the two of you to have an uninterrupted conversation, it does wonders for a marriage.
So keep dating and romancing with your spouse, and know in your heart that you're doing the best you can for your kids. And does it hurt the kids to see that their parents are still in love and consider one another priorities? Or does it set a good foundation for when they grow up and get married?
Good Luck!
2007-03-01 02:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands and wives need to spend time together, without the kids. You didn't mention your kids' ages. Could it be these people are concerned about the kids being home alone? If they are being taken care of, or are old enough to be alone for a few hours, ignore the comments, or go someplace new so you won't have to see the people who are bothering you. Keep in mind, they are out too. Who is watching their kids??
2007-03-01 11:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just aren't too good at small talk. I am sure they do not mean that you are bad parents because you are out on a date with just each other. It is good for a couple to have some one on one time. Don't let these acquaintances spoil it for you.
When I am out without my son, people often ask me the same. They basically are just asking about him. People forget sometimes that you are not just a mom and dad, but a couple in love.
Tell them that you and your husband are on a romantic date night.
2007-03-01 02:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I completely understand. You do deserve a life outside of parenting. You do deserve to nurture your marriage, which is part of being a good parent.
Who knows why they are saying it. It could stem from judgement or possibly resentment and jealousy.
Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. As you know that what you are doing is actually healthy. It maintains your relationship and makes the both of you happy...ultimately making you better parents.
Stop caring what others say, as long as you know that it is okay with you two.
2007-03-01 02:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are being rude and you are way too sensitive.
Just tell them that the kids are home sleeping & you have an exellent babysittter. Smile and walk away.
You could be a snot and ask them why they haven't grown up and had kids yet, but that isn't so nice
2007-03-01 02:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pestering dolts either want you to feel bad or they are innocently inquiring. You sure don't have to explain yourself or let someone "make you feel defensive."
Often, these people really couldn't care that they upset you. You have to be sure of yourself and maybe shoot down a few unwarranted kibitzers. It might be fun.
2007-03-01 02:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. They are probably jealous because you have an actual love life and they dont even have sex anymore. They probably dont even like one another anymore and are only still married because of their kids. You are doing the right thing
2007-03-01 02:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
simply explain to them.......that this evening is our date night.....if they can not understand that.....you are better off without the people ...that inquire...............
2007-03-01 02:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by cowboycloser2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋