2007-02-28 17:54:30 · 9 answers · asked by av_5us 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your parents are probably right.
Most marriages of people that have different religions struggle from day one. And when children come into the picture, it goes down hill from there because they both want the kids to be a part of their religion.
I would suggest backing up and actually listening with an open mind to what your parents are saying.
2007-02-28 17:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I COMPLETELY disagree with Jessica. Why? Because my wife is Buddhist and I am Christian. We have a three year old boy, and we have never had an argument about religion. It all depends on whether or not the couple is mature or immature children.
The only thing you have to do is talk about everything now and see if there will be problems. If not, do not listen to what others say. It's your life, not anyone else's. Do you want to give up your happiness because others whine and complain that THEY don't like your lover. I had to go through that, and I won. Everyone believes in us now that we have been married a while. Most of them just try to pretend that they never opposed the marriage at all. I think my life would have been very dark and cold if I had not followed my trust in my wife and myself. I have everything I ever wanted in in my life, and we have a WONDERFUL child, too.
Think very carefully about the pros and cons. Also make sure that you understand what you are throwing away should you follow everyone else's opinion.
2007-02-28 18:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be a touchy subject. Truth be told do what makes you happy. We all know there is only 1 God and if God knows you want to be united under him then so be it. Do it quietly just you two and if the parents blow up, then they blow up. If they love the both of you they will understand and eventually grow to accept it.
As for children, let them decide when they are old enough. Love>Religion. In then end are we all going to the same heaven? Stop taking religion as if it's the say all end all.
2007-02-28 18:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Thought 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you live in the USA you can get married however or where ever you want. If you want a big wedding you just plan it and tell your parents that you can invite them, but tell them that you will welcome them to your wedding but only on your terms because you will be getting married whether they are there or not. And if they disrupt the planning or the wedding themself, they will be taken out of the situation. If you let them control you with the wedding, it will be non stop fighting the rest of your life. Ask them to either be part of your choice or don't bother to ruin your life.
You are in control.
2007-02-28 18:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Elope!!!!! then have a huge feast of thanksgiving and invite
the people who wish you well and mom and they have a choice
to come or not , parents always want the best for their children
but to control your decesion on who you marry is wrong even if they maybe right. I wish you the best of luck
2007-02-28 18:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get married quietly in a chapel, if you're of age. There's is no valid reason for anyone to complain, as long as a marriage is between a man and a woman.
2007-02-28 17:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either the two of you really WANT to get married or you don't. You will have to decide that before you either proceed or not.
2007-02-28 19:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elope, or at least start rumors that you're going to elope. They will get a good reality check!
2007-02-28 18:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica's right
2007-02-28 18:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋