26 and still a virgin....is there something wrong with me for not wanting to give it up?

Question

I'm a 26-year-old virgin. I'm dealing with a lot of people around me who think there is something wrong with me for still being a virgin at my age. They tend to think there is something wrong with me for still having it and not wanting to give it up so easily--even my family thinks this. My reasons used to be largely religious but a few years ago I had to reconstruct my belief system after my family fell apart, I only learned how to masturbate two years ago, and I have very strong feelings about sharing my body with someone else before I am ready. My deeper problem is letting someone get close enough to me for me to eventually be ready, as I have a very limited trust of men right now. I'm convinced they are all alike and yet I can't do sex for the sake of sex....it is deeper to me than that. Honestly, am I so wrong for retaining my virginity, and not buckling under pressure from others, no matter their comments might hurt me? Am I right in sticking to my guns?

Answer 1

zeoviolet, Why would you want to fornicate, and sin against your own body? You need to return to your first love, The Lord Jesus Christ! I commend you for not yielding to that temptation, draw near to The Lord and He will draw near to you. Seek first The kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added onto you! He knows your desire for the right husband, and true love making can only come in the context of Gods covenant! It is a false, counterfeit, love when your having sex with someone else's potential husband. You need to straighten out your relationship with The Lord, and begin to Trust in The Lord with all your heart, lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He, shall direct your path! Why would you follow the advice of people who have no love for God, and ignore the truth of His Word? There are great people waiting in purity for the spouse that their heavenly Father will deliver to them. I know of many, just as old as you or older. Why would you sell out all those years of holding out for a lie, and false love? Love is more than temporary,self satisfaction! It's commitment, doing what's right, and standing for truth when the world's doing there best to dissuade you, so it will lighten their own guilt conscience. Well one thing about it, if you give in you'll have all the gainsayers off your back! You can then officially be, "One Of The Crowd!" And your setting yourself up for enormous pain and heart-sickness, all to be a member of the lost and Goddless generation. Please, don't find a strong, Word speaking, Holy Spirit filled fellowship instead, and find your 1st love, your Father who loves you, gave Himself for you, and will never,ever, leave, or forsake you. He's the only one you can count on, one hundred percent. If your family fell apart, it wasn't His fault, He doesn't control people(like most people try to do), He leads, and guides them with His Word and Holy Spirit. It's their choice whether they follow or become stubborn in their hearts, for fear of acknowledging their own failures, and sin. It's instant recovery when we just humble ourselves, confess our sins, get up, and start afresh! How wonderful is that! New beginnings, zeoviolet, I think it's your turn............................Delight yourself in The Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart!

Answer 2

no there is nothing wrong with you, my friend hazel is 26 and still a virgin, she's just waiting for the right person. If you want to wait go ahead. Though i would try and work out your trust issues, as if you dont you will never let somebody close enough to reach that stage in a relationship

Answer 3

Do what you feel is right for you. I would not advise having sex just for the sake of sex. Make sure that the topic does not come up any more. Tell everyone that your sex life is your business and stick to that.

Answer 4

I have shared my love through the act of sex and I have had sex. by having sex it did not in any way subtract from the act of making love. In my opinion you are wasting your life. I'm currently 26 and I can't even imagine not having experienced it.
don't put yourself in this box forever let go of your control and let yourself be with a man. But be intelligent about it use protection and all that stuff.