that hes too busy with his work and his family. His family is very narrow minded so he cant talk with me on phone when he is at home. He is out of town most of the times for his work, he goes out for a month and comes back for say just 5-10 dasys. So it becomes very difficult for us to meet bcoz he has all his personal work to do as well in very short time. I am just tired of sacrificing for him. He keeps on asking me to understand his situation. I feel very lonely when hes not around. Can anyone suggest what I need to do??
2007-02-28 16:54:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should just give yourself sometime for yourself. If he really LOVES you then he would make time for you, and stop making excuses! honestly just let him go you deserve better than what hes showing you, but its really all up to you and what you feel in your heart! just think about it!
2007-03-01 01:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by ツ eileen's mommy; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to bring this to a head. Its very admirable that you will sacrifice for him but at some point there has to be a return on your emotional investment. Therefore, even though its not something you may find easy to do , it may be time for you to sit him down and tell him you love him but that he needs to make some changes so that you feel the love in return. Relationships are about TWO people giving and taking. You have been giving but if he can't give back in return then you are certainly smart enough and more than likely attractive enough that you can go and find someone that will appreciate your sacrifices and love you completely in return. Good Luck
2007-02-28 17:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he isn't already married? Like to someone out of town? It is kind of scary that he can't talk to you around his family---major red flag---that means he doesn't want them to know about you--and then you say he is out of town for work, do you talk to him while he is away?-- if not, another major red flag. And when he comes home, you state he has a lot of "personal work"--another red flag---where DO YOU fit into his life? and how long do you know him and where did you meet him---if it was a bar or restaurant- if you know none of his friends- if you don't go over his family's house to have dinner with his family, if you never get to meet or go on any of his trips with him---he's married---next time you're with him, check his cell phone--and copy the #'s in it and the names that are listed...good luck....I hope I'm wrong.
2007-02-28 17:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by sandybrandydot 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aww sweetie that is so sad ,,, but you know what you cant be the only one trying to make time together,,, some where he has to start too, so maybe plan ahead make a day or a weekend for just you two to enjoy, talk to him see about making that possible and word a lil at a time getting him away from family so much and more on you,,,, i know exactly what you are saying i went thru that as well,,, hang in there and try planning ahead time ,,,,
2007-02-28 17:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by mala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear, try to understand any situations of your boyfriend and do not keep this thing alway in your mind, to find out more interesting things for yourself and make more good girl friends and then you will transfer your feeling, your done efforts is enough.
2007-02-28 17:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by clare8899 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to evaluate what you want from your relationship in the long term. If you love him enough to be prepared to cope with this, then you will need to fill up your time with other activities during his absence. Continue to accept him as he is and keep teeling him how much you enjoy your time together. The interesting thing about guys is that when you accept them as they are, they will be more willing to change. :) Good luck!
2007-02-28 17:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa prinzess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him know how this make you feel. it sound like
he does not care about your feeling and if that the case it time
to really look at what you really have. it about respect and he
not give you yours. maybe tiime to move on. it will only get
worst not better.time to put the cards onthe table. that way you
know where you stand with this man.
2007-02-28 17:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not trying to be mean, does he really love you, has he done or said,or Shawn in some way,if you really feel he is ,then be patient, if not i would open my eyes and start looking else where. it sounds like he's not all that ready for any commitment. think of yourself , is this what you want? good luck
2007-02-28 17:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by skip3800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you both should just be friends until you can figure where youre relationship is going. if he can't give you no time then is it really worth it. Is he working so hard so that YOU AND HIM CAN BE HAPPY TOGHETHER ONE DAY..... cause if he is then by all means sacrifice and wait for that man girl.... seriously.
2007-02-28 17:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by fatt_and_juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you say you love him then you probley think you might get married just remember you cant change men and dont try to form them into something they are not. If you do not like what he is like now get out of your relationship becasue once you get married you cannot complain about it
2007-02-28 17:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋