okay -- not to brag but im an attractive young lady
and every guy that looks my way, he flips out.
every guy i smile at, he thinks im gonna have sex
w/ them that nite. if i hang out with another guy as
a friend, he calls a girl that i have no idea who it is
and hangs with her.
its getting pathetic and old. i tried to tell him hes
jealous , but like all men he's in denial..
help?!
2007-02-28 16:52:49 · 14 answers · asked by chelsღ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
no- ive never cheated on him or any other guy. and the fact that he called some random girl right in front of me made him look desperate and pathetic.
2007-02-28 17:00:29 · update #1
Ok, well next time he goes to call a girl, take the phone from him. Tell him that he is being a spoiled and jealous brat, and that it's getting annoying. Also tell him that you are with him, you don't cheat on him and you will not cheat on him. Just because you are with another guy doesn't mean you are having sex with him.
Make sure you point out that he is jealous you are annoyed enough to break up with him(you won't, but threatening is good)
2007-02-28 21:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Unknown. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be taking your smiles at other guys as 'flirty'. And most guys who have a girl purposely smile at them will tend to think that you are flirting or like them - even if you don't or aren't. That's a guy for you.
As for him having a problem with you hanging out with your guys friends, I don't blame him. Have you invited him along? Why can't he go too? If you are just friends with whatever guy your hanging out with, then there is no reason to exclude your boyfriend. He's acting that way in return because he's a teenager and maybe doesn't know how to talk to you about how it makes him feel. So he's being what's called 'passive aggressive'; meaning he's angry at you for your behavior and is lashing out in a roundabout way.
There are do's and don'ts when youre with somebody. You should not be flirting with anybody else or being overly friendly. And invite him sometimes when you hang out with your other guy friends so he knows there is nothing to worry about. If he still has a problem after you've made an effort to help him feel secure about you - than it becomes something you should consider before continuing the relationship.
He doesn't own you, but you do owe him some consideration for his feelings and make sure you've proven to him that you deserve his trust.
2007-03-01 01:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cedar_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what I call a double standard and what you need to do is sit him down and tell him you know the only reason that I think that you are doing this is because one you are cheating on me or two you are so insecure with yourself that you think that I am going to up and leave you, not only that but you should tell him that he needs to realize that he is being obsessive and if that it's going to keep going on than you guys should not be together but if he really loves you then he will be willing to come to a comprise and you each pick one night out of the week that you guys get to hang out with who ever and then meet up in like an hour or two and you guys can then meet each others friends and maybe then it can turn out really good
2007-03-01 01:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a reason to be jealous? Have you ever cheated on him? It is kind of weird that you would want to hang out with another guy as just a friend. That would make any guy jealous unless there were other girls around too. And why shouldnt he hang with another girl if you hang with another guy? Sounds fair to me.
2007-03-01 00:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at this from another angle. Maybe your boyfriend thinks he owns you, like a piece of property. You definately don't need that hassle. There will be other men. Secondly, he may have cheated on you. He feels guilty about it and is projecting his anger on you. Either way, if everything has to be his way or to his liking, put him in the road girl.
2007-03-01 06:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by deacon_gumbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are so attractive and guys are looking your way, maybe he is feeling a little insecure and feeling like he could lose you anytime. You need to reassure him, if you are really interested in him. But, if he is starting to act possessive, nobody has the right to rule over your every move. In that case, I would leave the relationship.
2007-03-01 04:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband was like that 2 but hes a very sexy man so i had to make a decision him or the friends we have been married for six wonderful years and i can say hes my best friend so you have to decide if hes the one for you and make a decision because if he thinks you cheat hes gonna to men are just dumb like that hope all works out for you good luck
2007-03-01 00:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by tasha d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out now!!! get rid of him now he calls a girl you don,t even know why because he maybe doing what he is. what he thinking what your doing with a male .having sex.you know better but like you said he,s in denial .if you marry this guy you will end up black and blue maybe worse.then he,ll being saying ho baby i,m sorry and it won,t happen again.because he,s in denial!!!Help is what you need to get him out of your life.you said it he flips out.he may flip out and hurt you really bad.run run as fast as you can.watch the news.you may be putting yourself and family in danger.may god be with you.and good luck.
2007-03-01 01:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by charlotte t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have u ever cheated on him? and jealousy can some time bring on other negative things so be careful.and you shouldn't do anything to him that you dint want done to you in return
2007-03-01 01:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you shouldn't b wit you if he is really that jealous and doesnt trust you. and you should be the one worried about him cheating if he calls random girls to try to make you jealous.
2007-03-01 10:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Princess K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋