can somebody plz help me!!!!!!please?

Question

im an australian married to asian guy.i know alot about this culture of these people and i know if u live in rome u do what romans do.the problem is what do i do when i have such a controlling father-inlaw that he do all decitions for me including the lives of my three kids.he tells u what to think,do,eat and i feel like a maid bec i i have no say upon our daily lives.my kids complain so much and i feel useless not doing anything for the sake of my marriage.my husband knows about this saddness in my life but there is really nothing that he can do about this situation.what do i do?not ony for me but for the kids sake

Answer 1

Apparently you didn't put a lot of thought into this before marrying this guy. There are always warning signs, you just chose to be blind to them.

Answer 2

OK you need to tell your husband to be a man and speak with his father because you r his wife. No man should treat you like your a maid and if he doesn't want to stop the situation then honey its time for a divorce. what your kids see now they will come custom too and they will treat other woman this way or let other people treat them this way and no mother wants that for her children... give him an ultimatum tell him to get his father of you and the kids back or your packing your stuff and the kids and leave.

Answer 3

You're only offense in taking a stand is actually going to be your defense.....move! Time to get the heck out of Rome darlin! There is something to be said about distance making the heart grow fonder. Eventually this situation is going to ruin your marriage, especially since your husband has not learned to stand up to his father and grow a pair. I'm sorry that's harsh, but in reality, that is what is going on. Not only does this man control his family, but he's controling your family. People will only treat you how you allow them too. Stand up for yourself. It's okay to go against the grain every once in awhile. And if you can't do it for yourself, for the love of God, do it for your children before they grow up to become this man.

Answer 4

What is happening is normal for their culture. Your father in law is the patriarch of the family and sees to it that things are run his way. You are only the wife of his son and expected to totally fall in line and be seen but not heard. You have two options: One is to move out from under the influence of your in laws. The second one is to comply with the current situation. You'll need to decide which choice you can live with. Your husband is not going to stand up to his father on your behalf.

Answer 5

You have to leave him for the sake of your children. I don't know how you can tolerate such a dictator... this is the 21st century and unless you want your daughter- I assume you have one, to grow up believing she is not EQUAL to men and to walk 2 steps behind and all that other bullshit- you got to get your kids and leave-- call your mom and maybe she can arrange to buy the tickets to Australia-make sure that your husband is not aware of you leaving- because your father in law will find out and stop you... good luck to you.... get out as fast as you can and don't look back

Answer 6

If your husband really loves you he would tell his father to stay out of his marriage. If your not happy, then leave, if your husband wants to come set the terms, you love him, but you and your children will not be controlled by the inlaws, if he wont do something you must. its not fair to you or to your children

Answer 7

if your husband know and he cares about your feelings and the feelings of your children i think getting away from the inlaws would help....move away far away. dont be a prisoner...life is short...remember you are setting the example for your children. you dont want your boys to treat their wifes like that and your girl to think its ok to have someone controll you......get a plane ticket.

Answer 8

move away and live your own lives

Answer 9

First, get your "!" key fixed.