When me and my Girlfriend (soon to be wife) Get in a arguement she will say such hurtful things to me she knows it hurts me when she talks about her past sex life. Also i have gained some weight recently and she knows i dont like when she calls me fat. So when she gets mad at me she will talk about her past and how hot her ex's are and how big their weinners are and things like that she just trys to hurt me. What do i do, I dont know i love her with all my heart i really do but it hurts so bad when she says these things to me and she does everytime she gets mad. When we argue its pretty much her yelling at me and my defending myself and if i do anything to fight back she will break up with me or take it to the next lvl of argueing. I dont want to argue i dont like it. What do i do about this i just want her to realize how much this hurts me and ive told her she has promised not to purposly hurt me anymore like this but she still does it.
2007-02-28 16:42:35 · 12 answers · asked by Chris G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, the key words you used are that she is MAD when she says hurtful things to you. She may want you to be just as mad or hurt as she is so she says these things. However, I find this to be rather immature of her. She knows that these things can get under your skin and the things she is using are very sensitive to you. You need to ask her what her real reasons for being mad are and to stick to that area of the conversation. Im sure your weight and her ex's have nothing to do with why you guys started arguing so why is she even bringing it up in the first place? I think its respectable that you are trying to solve this issue, but it is definitely her issue. You should definitely confront her on it, and not show that it bothers you, because the more you do, the more she will use it against you
2007-02-28 16:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by nenagrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear young man, do you want to have to go through life being treated this way. Marrying this young woman could be a very big mistake. Get out of the relationship while you can. It will hurt for a while, but I'm sure there will be someone else more deserving of your love and affection out there somewhere in the world.
2007-02-28 17:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As women we aren't physically as strong as you men . We process anger in a different way. I too say hurtfull things when angered. I know it is wrong to do so, but I don't want to jump astraddle of the other person so this is a better alternative. Your woman could be this way also to hide the fact that her feelings have been hurt in some way by you and she just wants to return the favor. It is a visious cycle that never seems to end.
2007-02-28 23:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I some situations war with the comparable problems, that's oftentimes over stupid issues. undergo in strategies that 2 wrongs do not make an outstanding, and extra unkind words stoke the fires of resentment extra. try questioning until now you talk, and often it fairly is in basic terms much less complicated to assert you're good and that i'm incorrect just to end a controversy. there is not any room for delight in a relationship in case you like it to final. Be extra assertive, and much less aggressive, sometimes you additionally can diffuse a undertaking with good judgment. in basic terms because of the fact your father became a undeniable way , do you surely must be like that? final yet not least in case you like her you are able to forgive her.
2016-10-17 00:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sweetheart bottom line is DO NOT MARRY HER..........you will hate yourself in the end honey.... she sounds real young and if their cocks were better she needs to go back.... someone out there will love u for u and will respect u enough not to play childish games with u... its hard to leave when u love someone but love is blind and do u really want to be mentally abused the rest of your life so when u have kids ur son sees that daddy is a wimp... either he will have no respect for u or he will become a wimp to... if she doesn't stop leave... there r plenty of fish in the sea........
2007-02-28 17:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by JRuiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and get some backbone, it's annoying when people whine like that over a dumb argument. What are you, five years old in the playground and some mean kid called you a name? Get over it, it was an argument, did you expect it all to be full of compliments and sugar coated words? When people fight, mean things are said. It's usually women who piss and moan about things like this, most guys are more realistic.
2007-02-28 17:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
whether you love her or not there is definate verbal abuse going on. and it does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. she seems to not have self control if she is lashing out like that. there is a definat lack of respect also. if she respected you she would watch what she said to you...even during an arguement.
i'd do some serious thinking if i were you....can u deal with that abuse for the rest of your life??
2007-02-28 16:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's like this now, think of how mean and hateful she'll be later, when she comes to resent being married to you and not able to go out and have fun!?!? I think you deserve better- if you love someone, you dont cut them down like that.
2007-02-28 16:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of this relationship, if everytime you try to stand up for yourself her defense is to break up with you, then start standing up to her and let the breakup happen, she is damaging your self esteem and has no respect for you and you can do alot better.....
2007-03-01 04:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes - break it off with her. No one needs that verbal abuse
2007-02-28 16:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋