This guy I was with, I found out had manipulative and lieng ways. Regardless, when we were together, he confided in me alot and I was with him every step of the way emotionally. He told me he never wanted to live w/o me and he appreciated me and that he even talked about marriage and all that. Well, another girl had more influence on him and he left me to be with her, the mother of his child, he even went out of his way to be cold and hurtful to me. Anyhow it ended badly between us. We said alot of things to each other, I had every right to, he was just hurting me to defend himself. Anyhow, I wonder, will he ever realize how hurtful he was to me and will I ever get a genuine apology from him. I don't think he will ever find someone like me as far as genuinly caring about him, I was there for him when he wanted to commit suicide to the point where I would fall asleep with him on the phoen if need be. I thought I was everything he wanted. I am attractive and I have a great heart.
2007-02-28 16:25:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He went with the other one b/c he felt thats where he needed to be. They are not together anymore. She lied to him I guess about things. But he gave me up to be with this girl. I know he should be there for the child, I am the one who said he should have been a part of his daughters life. Anhow, when I confronted him , he didnt want to talk to me, so I left him messages telling him I know about all the lies he told me, I think he was ashamed about what I found out, the reason why he lied to me. I told him my friends and family know about what he did to me. I was hurt, and I lashed out at him. Its been sometime and I was hoping he would realize how badly he hurt me and at least be able to come clean and apologize genuinly. Will I ever hear from him? I dont want him back, just acknowledgement as to who I was to him. Suicide was a big deal to me and I helped him, I told him to get help, but he only wanted to confide in me. I feel he messed w/ my head and I told him this.
2007-02-28 16:30:25 · update #1
Baby Girl, first of all you need to forgive yourself!!! Don't beat yourself over the head for genuinely caring for someone, even if it was not returned. You did the right thing...Look, Don't hold your life up waiting for an apology from him... I know you have invested alot into that relationship, and what you have given will not go unrewarded. Now it may not be from him but you will see better days...Look, the guy has had your past, Don't give him your future!!!Don't give anymore energy to it!!!There is better, so don't settle until you get the BEST!, and that is what you will get once you totally let this guy GO, Let him Go, in letting him go, you are releasing yourself. Refuse to be a Prisoner to that past relationship, so that you can have your hearts' desire. Let Go, and live!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-28 16:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have already answered 2 of your similiar questions about this same guy, but to add to it: you should probably stop focusing on him and what will he do for you as far as apologizing or acknowledging what he's done goes. Because the thing is, he is done. You need to be done too. I would just work on coming to some realizations that you dealt with an individual who did not appreciate what you put out there for him. And theres not a thing you can do about it. You need to move past that. I would also remember in the future, when you are really there for someone like you were for him, do it because you want to do it unselfishly. Do not expect anything in return - not even so much as a thank you. Just find satisfaction in the fact that you helped another human being. And let it be. If you do not get recognition, rewarded, or thanked, let it be ok. Just know that it does not make you any less of a person. You are a good human being and love to help others, but you just need to learn how to put it in proper perspective. Good luck to you...
2007-03-01 03:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will feel better if you let it go, all of it. If he apologizes would you want him back again. There is nothing wrong with you make sure you get that because I hear you saying " I thought I was everything he wanted". If he chooses to act this way there really is nothing that you can do about it. Don't chase him around and try to get an apology. Tell yourself screw him! There are many more guys in the world, you don't have to put up with all this drama.
2007-03-01 00:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this, but it sounds to me like all he wanted was someone to lean on while waiting for his old girl friend to come back. He will most likely never apoligize. The only reason he would is if the other one leaves him again. You need to find some one who will really care about you. Someone who will listen to you, not have you just listen to him. Move on, remember you are a better person, and every time you see him remind yourself of what he did to you so that you will not fall into his trap again!!!
2007-03-01 00:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are. He's a puppet. Women pull his strings. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do. The mother of his child, him, you, all others involved. You will love again. Spend some time with yourself and love, feel love. Do what you love doing. Reach out to friends. Watch movies, eat good food, spend time with family, do a hobby. Move on and heal. You will attract positive people and situations once you think about everything positive and dwell on only what you love and is good. Not what you miss or what once was. Carpe Diem girl!
2007-03-01 00:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a good woman. Let this drama go and find a good man who will treat you right.
If you need closure, try writing. I just opened a Word document one day and typed 16 pages, got it all out. It was really therapeutic.
2007-03-01 00:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will realize eventually that he was hurtful to you but it will be on his own time, when he's ready to realize it. In regards to the apology, that all depends on him.
All in due time. In may be in 5 weeks or 5 years or 50 years. but he will realize it.
2007-03-01 00:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by KOI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we just have to let thingslike this go, hard as that may be. It's over. We don't always get to talk things out after
2007-03-01 00:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find someone else. Count your blessings...he is emotionally unstable and a player. Two things you don't need around your child.
2007-03-01 00:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear i can tell u this stop moping over someone who was an a**... u deserve better and given how life is u will find one... just let it go... he will not apologise...
2007-03-01 00:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by silverfox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋