This guy makes tons of money and is in way over his head with this whole drug dealing thing, he basically can't get out of it. Beside the point, the guy is a total jerk to my friend, he has beat her up, he throws things at her, and is constantly verbally harrassing her. She leaves him once in a while but always goes back to him. She has a little girl with him now that is a year old, and another one due in May. On Valentines Day he proposed to her and she said yes. Every time i have talked to her in the past she says that she hates him, and is leaving, and now she's marrying him. How do i make her realize how much she is screwing her life up, and is going to majorly regret the situation she is getting herself into?
I can't stand to see her go through this, she is my best friend and i don't want to see her get hurt, and i don't want her kids to have to grow up with the posibility of getting into trouble with the situation their father is in.
2007-02-28 15:28:16 · 12 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all your friend and her children are in my prayers,as are you.As far as your friend goes the best advice I can give you is to be their for her.I was in a similar situation and if it weren't for my best friend being there when I realized I was in a bad situation I would not be here today.Pray for your friend and be there when she needs you.Don't push her to hard but remind her often how you feel about her and let her know that no matter what you will be there.Good luck to you and thank you for being there for someone who was once me
2007-02-28 16:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole situation sounds horrible. Unfortunately there is not going to be anything you can say or do to her to make her change her mind. I know you want to do something to help her and the babies out, but until you've actually been in her shoes, you don't know what she is going through. Sure, she tells you and maybe you have witnessed some of it, but there is something there that she wants that keeps pulling her back. She may think she loves him, but doesn't realize that this isn't how love treats one another. You have to let her experience this on her own. Believe me, when she's fed up and had enough, she'll get out of it on her own and not look back. Just stand behind her as a friend and always be there for her when she needs you, even if it is just a shoulder to cry on. Only time will tell and hope things work out for the best...especially for the kids sake.
2007-02-28 15:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-28 15:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't make her see, she has to realize, recognize, and analyze the situation herself. You can only be a friend and be there for her. You can tell her, with the possiblity of her thinking that you're jealous. You can remind her that she doesn't need a jailbird as a husband, or for her children father. Just let her know that nothing changes, when you say I do. Things will only get worst from then on, because he will think he owns her, once married. Just pray for her. Be Blessed!
2007-02-28 15:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by MrsE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief -
She's pregnant with the illegimate baby of a drug dealer????
Tell Britney there to straighten up - for her sake and for her soon to be child. It's no longer just here in the picture - she owes the little one a better chance at a normal life than she and "dad" can offer - give the child up for adoption if she can't handle this. she sounds like she has no self-worth. It's going to be tough to convince her to leave this jerk - but keep trying.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 15:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Skeezix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely have not to procure your self in a pickle. Pregnant at 15 by the community druggy deadbeat. Kicked out of abode because of undesirable organisation you're conserving. I guess it felt real cool residing removed from abode after your mum and dad kicked you out. i ask your self how many nights your mom cried herself to sleep annoying approximately you. Your father might have are available the time of as chilly yet I guess he's demanding and worried for his daughter. And all those drugs you took collectively as being pregnant. You of course have an extremely low opinion of your self yet to hold a newborn into this international addicted to cocaine on account which you're too egocentric to place any physique's desires till now your man or woman extremely does take the biscuit. i'm happy your unlikely to be my mom. you're too immature to even wipe your man or woman backside. As for working away to Korea...what is going to you reside to tell the story? your persons charity? there's no social protection obtainable for stupid females up the duff. Do your self a favour, harm off all touch with ineffective leg boyfriend. Have tests to make particular your newborn is okay and ask your mum and dad to forgive you. think of roughly adoption on your toddler and bypass back to varsity and make a solid existence for your self. Make your mum and dad happy with you, no longer ashamed.
2016-11-26 21:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you totally but sometimes people just have to find out things the hard way... you just have to hope the children dont get hurt because of her stupidity..
2007-02-28 15:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by onlyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly......people will do what they want to do until it gets to a major extreme which is sad. It is unfortunate but you kind of have to sit and watch because if you say anything, her rebuttal will be "well how do you know" or anything similar to that. I know its hard but you kind of have to sit back.
2007-02-28 15:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want the best for her. If she means a lot to you, stand by her no matter what.
2007-02-28 15:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, there is nothing you can do. Just let her know you're there for her. She'll come to her senses sooner or later, hopefully sooner.
2007-02-28 15:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by untuhchabul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋