i have this friend ..and she is really bossy..and says really hurtful things to me..that nobody else ever says..at times she acts like a controlling boyfriend..for example we will be at a party and if my attention or a guys attention is not fully on her she will get in my face and yell at me in front of everyone.
I have just recently started to avoid her..i just cant take it anymore
we are all in a circle of friends and if something happens that i dont have control over i will be the one that she yells at..not any of the other girls..i just dont understand it..i dont want to cut her out of my life completly..but i feel that i have no choice..why would someone act like this..i do everything for her..i pay for her alcohol when we go out..give her gas money all the time..and my mom even went as far as buying her shampoo and conditioner when she didnt have it..and she also ate at my house everynight when she didnt have any food in her house
2007-02-28 15:26:18 · 11 answers · asked by Gia Lauren. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like you've been unwittingly ballowing her to use you as a doormat, a restaurant, & a treasure chest. From your description, you've been rewarding her for very unacceptable behavior! That's not doing any of you any good. Instead of giving her things, require that she work for them ...
Don't be surprized at her response (I don't think you will):
Learn from your mistakes ...
How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends
- A Note to Parents
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm
PS: Telling others how she behaves when you aren't around will give her ammo against you. She may tell everyone that you are slandering her. Not a good idea, even if they ask!
2007-02-28 15:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick that slut 2 the curb, she is using u 2 the max and if thats not bad enough she spits all over what u give her and throws it at ur face by yelling at u at a party and humiliating u, tell ur circle of friends what shes been doing and then say ur not gonna hang with her, tell ur friends the whole trueth everything even how she acts nice around them but not to her. then just cut her out of your life no talk, dont accept her apologies shes gonna start crying and **** most likely tryig 2 guilt trip u and might use ur friends to peer pressure u into accepting her by looking all innocent but dont take that ****. kind ppl who do things for others such as urself can always find new friends. im me if u want more of my opinion
2007-02-28 15:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need a friend like that........But does she like both guys and girls? Maybe she developed a crush on u and in a way resents you for not noticing it.....it happens believe me........I would sit her down alone and ask her way shes always doin that to you.........Tell her that it really pisses you off and that if she cant be a true friend than you dont want her as a friend at all but dont put up with it because it wont stop hun
2007-02-28 15:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by vbolden88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not your friend if she's hurting you mentally. Kick her to the kurb! But so she doesn't blow up in front of you, write it in a note and have a friend deliver it, or slip it in her locker before school is over.
Good Luck!
2007-02-28 15:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by anew_star@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she isnt a good friend at all. shes prob using u just cuz she knows u do stuff for her. dont give in to peer pressure.. remember that. tell her u dont like it when she treats u that way, and for her to give her a reason why shes doing it.
2007-02-28 15:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lyzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that this girl is not a good friend for you to have. she is obviously using you for the things you give her. try to confront her about these things and let her know how you feel about her. good luck!
2007-02-28 15:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by *beautifulbabe* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with this girl? and what is wrong with you for letting her treat u that way? i would beat her ***! show her whos boss!
2007-02-28 15:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you, cut her off.
2007-02-28 17:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it i mean a friend is a person who cares about you
2007-02-28 15:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by pauline i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not your friend if they are bossy to you. They just want to use you. Please do not continue to be friends with her. Please find new friends that are nice to you. and pay for their own way.
2007-02-28 15:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋