does anybody know how to forgive a person who does really awful thing?

Question

does anybody know how to forgive a person who does really awful thing. there is this bad thing happened on me before a year ago and that something keeps coming on my mind and i didn't tell to anyone and i hated that person so bad and i don't even want to see. however i want to learn forgive so that what my stress could go away. could anyone help me with this?

Answer 1

This sounds like a very personal attack upon you. Perhaps you need to tell someone about this attack so that you are not holding on to this thing alone. When you share your burden with another person then there is less weight upon you. As you give up this secret to others, you will find that the burden will be lighter with each telling. Just be sure that the others are trust worthy. Sometimes complete strangers are best because your secret walks away never to return.

Answer 2

You can't forgive someone of something they done if you can't or don't do one of two things: either understand why they did what they did (in which case, forgiveness comes from realizing why they did what they did) or reach a point in your life where you accept that such-and-such a thing occured and that you will move on with your life regardless of what that person does, or is doing. In that case, your forgiveness becomes an act of you choosing how you will react to that person, rather than it being something you feel is being 'forced' upon you.

Hatred isnt just a feeling, it is an idea about a person, an idea that a person is worthy of being hated, despised, whatnot. You can't forgive someone you subconsciously believe is worth hating; the two are at odds with each other. Hatred essentially binds people together, the same as it does with love, since it is very difficult to hate someone who is either physically and/or emotionally far away from you. If hatred is a way to keep them close, forgiveness is a way to let them go.

Answer 3

You could start by forgiving yourself. For having placed yourself in a situation where someone had the power to harm or hurt you.
To forgive someone does not mean they are not accountable to you for responsibility. They are still responsible to you. So you are entitled to expect an apology at the very least.
If you think an apology will never happen, then forget the whole thing and make sure that person can never harm you again.

Answer 4

If you could set down and talk to the person that created the problem & if this isn't an option find a trusted person to talk with about it once it is off your chest that would be a big relief the next step of forgetting and moving on should become easier. Good luck.

Answer 5

talking about it helps. either talk to the person, or just talk to someone else and get it off your chest. once you get it off your chest, you will feel better and will be able to move on.
i had a situation like this where it took a while to forgive. but i confronted him, we talked, and i walked away feeling much better.
good luck.

Answer 6

I happen to be around an A hole right now. In my case he is too dangerous and it becomes a they. They are called gangs. This one is homosexual. They claim prejudice for any reason when not satisfied or not getting their way. I prefer the stress.

Answer 7

talk to that person. has he/she asked for forgiveness ? is that person has then that would make it easier for you to forgive . i know how you are feeling and that is the case with me . up until now he still hasn't asked for my forgiveness and he has not even acknowledged that he'd done me wrong that is why it is so hard for me to move on .

Answer 8

call Tony Soprano. Tell him to tell the guy right before he "wackes" him. That you are having this done for his own good and that you forgive him. All is right with the world again

Answer 9

honesty is the best way sometimes the person dont known they did something to you uless you tell them

Answer 10

By heart sweet heart.