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Question

My father is buying a new house and he want us to move there(he is not going to live in the house he lives with her women) However the problem is that he want that my mom paid for living there( like paying for an apartment rent) mom earns very little and harly have money for our family espences such as food and laundry on the other side he earn a lot more (he is a mechanic)...My mom is worry ...what the law says about it ....they still marry and have three brother that are young...And one last thing do there is free lawyer for this cases Thank You

Answer 1

Hi there. Many cities have what is called "Legal Aid" specifically for people who cannot afford legal counsel. As well, you may find a lawyer in the area willing to work pro bono (free); these are usually the lawyers trying to get their practice going. As well, you don't mention if your father is paying your mother child support. If he isn't, then your mother needs to go quickly to your local Child Support Enforcement office and file for support.
You sound like you are pretty young; so sad that you are in the middle asking for help. I encourage you to speak with your guidance counselor at school as well as having your mother do the above. Schools have a support system that can help direct your family to resources that will help.
Also, there's a good possibility that your family could qualify for temporary state aid, based on your income. Once the application is filed, the state will procede with collecting the child support from your father, and all your mother has to do is sign papers in their office, giving them your father's employer and home address.
Another answer would be to move in and your mother could pay whatever you can afford; I doubt your father is going to put his own children in the street....and if he tries to evict you, I believe you and your mother would prevail if it went to court. Children are the responsibility of BOTH parents. Your mother is 24/7 with children; the very least he could do is pay the rent since your mother is cooking, cleaning, shopping, working, caring for kids and paying the utilities.
I hope things work out for you all. Sadly, separation/divorce impacts children more than adults; adults at least get to choose, while the children simply have to follow those choices. Your parents' first and foremost obligation is to keep their children safe. And most of all realize that especially in times like this, children need reassurance and the right NOT to be involved in adult decisions.
Good luck. Say your prayers. Hug your mother. And your brothers. Have courage...nothing is forever and if everyone tries real hard and sticks together, it'll all work out.

Answer 2

I feel that you are too young to concern yourself with such an adult situation. Just to clear your mind though, a mechanic does not make a whole lot. It only seems like a lot right now because you are a kid. Another thing, your mom could do better (earn more) if she wanted to. Instead it seems that she would much rather have your Dad pay for everything. Excuse me, but aren't you a guy? If you would be on the right team ( your Dad's, you may learn a thing or two about being a man one day. Your mother will never be able to teach you that.) If you start hating your Dad, you do realize that one day you will grow up and hate yourself. Simply because you are only half the man that your father can teach you to be. Now stop hugging mom's leg and be a young man. First thing that you have to do, is stay out of grown folks business, advise your mother that you are only _teen and you are in no position to advise her of what she needs to do to be an adult. Heck, you are still figuring out how to be an adolescent yourself! But, keep in mind that your father is not divorcing your mother because of the children, he is divorcing your mother because she is a child. Kids are supposed to be kids, and adults are supposed to be adults. Not the other way around!

Answer 3

Legally if your parents are married then th new house that your father is buying is also hers Communal Property and she can live there free for it is her house ( and also his). I would not tell him you know this BUT let him buy the new house esp if it is pretier and biger and in a better neighborhood than the one you live in now.after the house is boufht have your Mother and the Kids Move in but do NOT Pay Rent. Since he bought the house if he bought and owes the mortgage he is still legally responsible to pay for it.He Cannot legally force her to pay rent BUT Legally is responsible in supporting his children all those under 18 he is by law responsible for and must pay to raise them-if not can go to jail for it. If your Mom wants to speak to lawyer she can have these questions answered for free by phone or the 1st office visit is usually at no charge. You can if she wants to hire a lawyer call Legal Aid-look in the BLUE Pages-in baack of the Business Phone Book find your county that you live in and then look for legal Aid.Also look for Social Services. You can also talk to the priest or minister of your church they will help and advise what to do. I do not understand all you say like what do you mean by the other side-is he living out of the country? even so cannot force your mother to pay rent hopefully he'll pay for the home -the total cost with no money owed and the your mom and th kids can live there but would have to pay utiliies(if he refused) and food etc.Wish you luck. If she has a Doctor she goes to talk with him/her they can also help your mother find the legal help she needs Do Not Allow the Father to Bully Your Mother but find out her rights and act on them again Good Luck.

Answer 4

Tell your mother to move right in the house, then once you are all settled in tell her to get a lawyer, and file for divorce he cannot make your family leave, because now it belongs to your mother and father, but your mother should get some kind of advice from a lawyer.

Answer 5

Please see if there is a low-icome attorney service in your area. If not, then please call your state bar association, and ask for an attorney to help pro bono (free). Also, see if you can get information - like a pamphlet) about landlord/tenant laws in your state. That will help protect your mom from being taken advantage of if she knows what the law is on that. Maybe from a courthouse, or an agency like Volunteers of America, or something like that. I wish your mom and all you kids the best on this. Take care. Also, where ever you all live, in apt. or house, please read and sign the lease. And get a copy of it. That helps let her know what her rights are, and the landlords' right too.

Answer 6

If you can not afford a lawyer, a local court will provide you a lawyer. According to law , your father has to support her and any minor children under the age of 18.

Answer 7

You are not being very clear about the situation. If they are separated, not divorced, then your father is still financially responsible for your mother.
As for the lawyer...
Many lawyers will give you a free consultation. That means they will listen to your plea for free, or maybe for a very small fee.
Good luck.

Answer 8

alot of your question don't make sense. if your mom can't afford to pay rent then she shouldn't move in there. your dad sounds like he don't understand the situation clearly.

Answer 9

your mom does not have to live where she does not want to live